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dtgray12 Asked April 2019

Should I block my mom from the internet?

I blocked my mom from using Google chrome on her phone some months ago cause she kept giving out her phone number to dealerships. I discovered this morning she's still at it on her tablet. Not only with dealerships but she fails to distinguish fake news from real news, will research anything that pops into her head and waste hours on end on the device.


She has a 2017 Nissan Altima she's still paying for but at the moment she isn't able to drive it (concussion). I think she's trying to get her independence but fails to see she needs to recover and accept help.


I admit I was here before asking about how to save proof your home for a dementia parent but now I've learned my mom might have a concussion instead.


Back to the question - should I block my mom from the internet until her judgement gets better?

Isthisrealyreal Apr 2019
I would freeze her credit and set up a fraud alert. This will stop any loans or accounts being opened without having to unfreeze her credit.

Can I recommend caution and careful steps when trying to protect her. She is able to make her own choices, good, bad and ugly. I get you are only trying to protect her, but any complaints about your actions could cause you more problems than you can imagine. Just a heads up.

Protection without impingement of her personal rights is how you want to approach it. Don't do anything that can be misconstrued as isolation. Protecting her credit vs. cutting her internet access is a good example of how to think with it.

Good luck with her recovery, may it be complete and speedy. May you find the ways to protect her from herself until she is better.

NeedHelpWithMom Apr 2019
You are right to be concerned. Way too many scammers out there. I get scam calls all the time on my phone but I am prepared to deal with it.

On the other hand, I constantly am concerned for my mom. I was thinking about only allowing family numbers allowed on her phone.

My mom knows her social security number and all it takes is one time giving out personal information to the wrong person. Same with banking info, credit card numbers and so forth. I catch her talking to strangers even though I have repeatedly told her not to answer the phone to unknown numbers.

Does your mom have an email? That’s another way they scam. Emails get hacked into as well. Someone hacked my uncle’s email.

I would at least use parental blocks. I used it when my children were younger. How gullible is your mom?

I can tell by your post that you are not interested in controlling your mom but you are interested in protecting her. Best of luck to you.

Take care.

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gladimhere Apr 2019
If mom is competent, and since she can navigate the internet, I would say there is not a doc that would find her incompetent. So, she has the legal right to make her own bad decisions, no matter how bad you think they may be.

shad250 Apr 2019
Mom probably needs something to do to enjoy her day. The Internet seems to fit the bill in It's own way

JoAnn29 Apr 2019
How did Mom get a concussion? How was she acting before it? I ask because concussions can cause some confusion but not long term. With my Mom, looking back, she was showing signs of Dementia but doing a good job of hitting her head accelerated it. I would check with a neurologist if these symptoms have gone on for a while.
dtgray12 Apr 2019
I've been trying to get her back to the doctor. It's difficult because she needs a neuropsychological exam and her insurance doesn't have a provider in their Network. Her doctor has referred her twice but each referral won't accept her insurance.
Eyerishlass Apr 2019
I agree with gladimhere and also say no, don't block her access to the internet. Surely there are different levels of parental controls on her device to prevent your mom from being able to access certain sites?
dtgray12 Apr 2019
I thought about blocking all unknown numbers but I know friends and family keep changing phones. Not many people leave messages either.
gladimhere Apr 2019
I would say no. What options does she have for activity through the day? Research is a great thing and keeps her brain active. I understand the frustration of dealerships calling. Block them from her phone.

Is mom living with you? How long?

Be grateful that a concussion may be all you are dealing with. Don't try to control every thing mom does, it would be impossible.
dtgray12 Apr 2019
I don't mean to control her life but she's been making bad decisions and if I let her things could get worst. I'm living with her.

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