My mom is refusing to go to a memory care center to be evaluated for dementia. Any advice?

I know that it’s important to you to find out what’s going on with your mom. But it’s difficult for us elders to admit there’s a problem and it’s because we’re aging. Sometimes I become aware that I’m having trouble getting around and moving slower. I’m making “those noises” when I sit down or get up that I used to tease my own mom about. And I’ll be darned if I can remember the name of a certain student I had in class.

If Mom is not a danger to herself and if she’s just kind of messing up once in a while, could the evaluations and tests wait? Sooner or later, she will come to the realization that something is going on and she may even ask you to make an appointment. She is most likely very aware of what’s going on, but she needs to come to terms with it before she wants to do something about it.

Can you tell her that her regular doctor insisted that she go?
Will promising her lunch out after ( or before) at her favorite place help?
" Mom, I need this doctor's advice so I can help you/plan with you/manage your health care better. This is for ME."

Would any of those work?

My mom wasn't interested in going to the neuro when her primary suggested it but then she was in her late 80s and I didn't push it - when it became necessary to take her at 92 it was for meds for anxiety when placed in a facility not for the more typical med aricept to slow progression of memory loss