In support group a friend's husband follows her everywhere. Is there a way to get her husband to stop?
When she stands up, he stands up. He moves from room to room as she does. It is beginning to affect her ability to handle his care. It's basically driving her nuts. Is there a way to address this, to get her husband to stop?
We call it shadowing when he's following me around and vulturing (when he doesn't just follow me but then stands over me, not saying anything and not answering me if I speak to him). I know it shouldn't bother me, there's really no harm in it but it still drives me a bit nutz now and then. I try to redirect him to a seat to sit in or to an activity he can do like taking clothes out of the dryer or stacking books from one table to another. Putting his snacks from a big bag to a bunch of small bags etc... Any type of distraction seems to help de-fuse his obsession with me. Good luck. Patience, humor and self talk is what gets me through.
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