My wife doesn’t care about being in public after she has peed her pants, but it’s embarrassing for me. Help!?

I think the wonderful thing is that you are getting her out!

Keep it up!

Keep a change of clothing in the car for emergencies, and keep a bag of pull-ups in the car as well.  Throw away all panties and leave only pull-ups for her to wear to start with, then change out as needed.  Now that they have non-gender bathrooms, I would go in the bathroom with her and lock the door and change her out.  If all you have are pull-ups, then that is all you have.  You can try the ones that are like giant diapers with the pull-tabs, but they are bulky and leak.  My mom did this over and over until I told her I was getting her pull-ups to wear, and she was grateful that the wet slacks stopped being wet.  I had a friend who's dad refused to wear them until they threw away his undershorts, and the pull-ups were the only thing left.  It took a couple of tries, but between she and her mom, he got to where he wore them without an argument.  See if you can initially introduce this idea using a female assistant.  It might go over better from the beginning and reduce the stress on you.

I used a sling bag to carry cleaning supplies and a change of clothing in. And I would carry this in to restaurants or wherever we went. I would take her into the mens room or the women's room to care for her. I did not care what anyone thought of my actions. I was taking care of her the best I could and proud of it.
Don't forget a plastic bag of some sort for disposal.

Maybe not much new to add, but as soon as my mother started to have incontinence issues, we got Depends and Poise Pads, and we had to change the sizes at first, but then got it right, and it was miraculous that she adjusted to them right away. Also, take her to the Urologist. They have medication to control urination in a safe way, if she is indicated for that. And, if you ask, you can usually get at least one month's worth of free samples.

If she is at home, and getting Medicaid "at home" benefits, which aren't much, then Medicaid will send you free incontinence supplies.

Also, hygiene and the possibility of rashes and infections are the problems to worry about. Not embarrassment. Get her some dark colored pants. Then the wetness won't show as much.

I agree about discussing this with her doctor. If she were thinking clearly, this would be a huge concern for her. So, I'd let her doctor know about the incontinence and her lack of concern about it, so she can get a diagnosis and some help.

If 66 is the year you graduated then we are close in age.

You have nothing on ur profile about ur wife. If she has not been diagnosed with Dementia/ALZ, then I would have her checked out. There is something wrong with a person who doesn't care that their pants are wet. Like said, there are products out there for those problems, There r pull ups that look like panties.

You need to get ur wife to a Dr. There are lots of reasons why this happens and some correctable. If ur on Medicare, tell wife you and her are going for your yearly physical. Make a list of things and ask the receptionist to give it to the doctor. This way he can ask the right questions.

If your screen name reflects your age, and your wife is approximately the same age, and you mean more than a slight leak with an obvious explanation to it, she should seek medical advice because this is not just one of those things. Your embarrassment is the least of her worries.

There is a wide range of aids for this of varying absorbencies, pads and padded underwear. Google incontinence aids womens and you should come across a good selection from which you can pick the most appropriate for your wife's needs.

There are many wonderful options to keep her sanitary- pads, Depends, etc.

Keep wipes and a spare pair of pants in the car.