I'm getting different answers from doctors. Can anyone give me any advice?

If what you mean is that you experience a lot of symptoms caused by the stress of looking after your mother, and the worse you feel the more she demands of you and interferes with you, then it sounds as though somebody was using the term "Munchhausen's by proxy" as a way of describing how your mother seems to thrive on the drama. Which would be an inaccurate use of the term, but perhaps they're trying to make you understand how important it is that you separate your needs from those of your mother, and get help to do this.

Would that make sense to you?

When you attend the ER with your mother, who is recorded as the patient? - your mother or you?

She has been making you sick - you mean she is actively poisoning you with a noxious substance? I hope she is being treated in a locked facility.

Are they maybe meaning she's a hypochondriac? Munchousin (sp?) Use to refer to someone making themselves sick for attention but usually used to describe a parent who purposely gets their child sick for attention munchousin by proxy.

I would not take what emergency Drs say. I would take Mom to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis.

I think as cwillie explained so well you are mixing up or combining the two possible aspects of Munchhausen but I'm a little confused because you said it was your mom being diagnosed and then your adult daughter....either way I hope the patient is under psych evaluation and being treated by a psychiatrist and they would be the ones to get clarification from about the diagnosis and what they are thinking. It's likely they don't have a definitive diagnosis yet too and are sharing their suspicions but I would sit down with them and ask questions until you have an understanding of what is going on.

What do the doctors say about her treatment? Sometimes it’s hard to communicate with them, I know. They understand what they’re saying and forget you don’t. Nurses are good ones to ask, too. They have more patience and will take more time to make sure you understand. Has she been evaluated for Alzheimer’s disease?

Munchausen syndrome is an obsolete term used to describe when people cause themselves to be ill in order to get attention (munchausen by proxy is when they cause someone else to be ill, usually a dependent child, in order to receive the attention). Are they offering her psychiatric treatment?

Google it for a better understanding of the terms.