How to help Dad with Mum's behaviour (now getting combative).

Try asking your dad if, years ago, when Mom was “present” in her life and healthy mentally and physically, what she would think if she could see herself now. Would she want to be putting her husband through this and be the cause of his sadness and stress? Or, would she want him to explore all avenues for help in making his life easier. I know he is having a hard time accepting this new reality, but he needs to. All of us who have suffered with a loved one who has dementia have gone through this “ostrich head-in-the-sand” phase. It just prolongs the inevitable.

Sending you many supportive thoughts and understanding.

Beatty, if Dad won't come, do the contact yourself and explain to the doctor how Dad feels. It should be understandable. Best wishes.

The usual method is to get mother to the doctor for some sort of check up, and word up the doctor in advance about what you are actually hoping for. Worth a thought?