Has anyone actually cut off their elderly parent?

I feel badly about how my earlier reply sounds. (want to clarify). I do wish I could care for mother in my home during her last days, but I haven't the finances to make the needed alterations, nor am I allowed to do lifting. Still, if I had to dispute to avoid taking her in, it would be traumatic, (cuz that would be a horrible memory to live with), for me.

How old is Mom. Does she have any form of Dementia. Any illnesses. We really need more info to help you with ur problem.

What a dilemma! (Such great answers). I hope my mother won't last long enough for me to face having to refuse to take her into my home. (I'm limited in finances & abilities) so she will never be in my home, God forbid. Yet it sounds horrid to have to argue that point with anyone. God bless us.

Many states still have Filial Responsibility Laws on the books, which means that children are LEGALLY responsible for their parents...by law...even for their expenses. The law is WRONG and many states have overturned it, but not all. My DH and I talked about cutting off his narcissistic mother who is on speed dial for Jamaican scanners but out state still has this law on the books. Everyone should check to see what their state laws are regarding this. I intend to try to oust my state Representative because he supports this law. We have no legal say when parents squander their money or live beyond their means but some state laws say we are still responsible for them when the "stuff" hits the fan. Totally unfair.

Yes, I hear of people who walk away from full time care of their parent, who never accepted the job of caring for their parents etc. If people didn't transfer the responsibility of care to others we wouldn't need an entire care industry. I cut my father off when I was in my teens, when he later talked AOL into giving him my private contact information by claiming that he had cancer, I briefly spoke with him to see if he had changed. I cut him off again after only a couple of brief calls and emails because he was still the monster I remembered. I don't know if he's alive or dead and I don't actually care. It sounds like it's time for you to call your local area on aging or Adult protective services folks and tell them you're not going to be caring for your mother any more. They will try to talk you out of it, you will need to be firm. Good luck.