I recently went back to work full time. I had talked to mom (whom I live with) and she didn't want any one to come, even just for a couple of hours. I set up cameras so I can keep an eye on her during the day. This morning after I woke her up and she ate her cereal, she wanted to go back to bed. I let her, but when she woke up, she said she didn't know where she was or even who she was. The secretary from the public housing office called me today to tell me a few things Mom had done in the last week. Nothing unsafe, just things that made the secretary worry about her. I was very grateful and she said next time she noticed something she would text me at the time. Eventually, probably sooner that either of us wants, she is going to have to home someone around, at least for a few hours. My question is would it be bad to lie to here and tell her that they are coming in to help keep the house clean since I went back to full time work? Would that backfire on me if they tried to help her? My brother isn't speaking to us, but since he lives over 1,000 miles away, he wouldn't be able to help anyway. Which brings me to my other question. I feel like he should know that she is having these kinds of trouble in case he wants to repair that relationship before she's not around to do it. He won't answer any call from us, so I was thinking maybe our pastor could call and let him know. Should I do this or just leave it alone? He's a doctor, BTW. This all hit hard today and I guess maybe I needed to vent.
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What makes you think that your mother would object to someone in the house? Perhaps you can negotiate a mid-way contract with a carer, so they do some housework ‘for you’, make lunch to have with mother, and are there to help if she wants it.
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For right now, I wouldn’t try to make amends with your brother or otherwise reconcile that situation. You have bigger fish to fry—keeping Mom safe. I’m afraid as she progresses, she is going to need more and more supervision. If she is not agreeable to a full-time aide you may need to find other living arrangements for her.