I loved my father so much. I want to tell him how sorry I am for all the pain I caused. I am looking forward to death just to see him again. Please don't think I'm such a bit case. I'm just a daughter who lives and missed her father who passed in 1984.
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Janet, I can hear the hurt, the sadness and the pain in your words, and how much you want to see your dad again. I am so sorry.
Spiritual growth is a very personal journey. For me, it doesn't work when someone tells me to attend this, or join that, etc. It is something I have to discover for myself when I am ready. So, I am not telling you to believe anything or read anything you don't want to.
The same goes for personal development, people grow and mature when they are ready. You said you were a disappointment. PAST TENSE. You were, but you are not anymore. You dad would be very touched to read the words you wrote here. If you want to make it up to him, live your life in a way that would make him proud.
You and your sister did nothing wrong protecting your mom from these unscrupulous scumbags. She may have been mad, but that doesn't make it wrong.
Let go of the guilt.
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And by legal instrument, we shut that down. Yet take away her agency... My sister and i , me more so, because i made it happen, have insurmountable guilt...
I hope my mother forgives me. And I will never know. We did the right thing, though.
The right thing is unique to each situation.
Ask yourself. Did you act in your father's best interest with no self interest involved? If so. Release it.
My sister and I did act in her best interest. We expected all along to inherit nothing. Turns out we will.
There is some guilt with that. More than some.
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Your feelings are completely understandable. I think so many of us wonder and it is only natural and normal. After my father passed the counselor suggested I write a letter to him. Or pretend he was sitting right across from me and tell him everything I didn't get a chance to say. And then mirror back what I thought he might say to me in return.
Losing a beloved father is terribly hard. Its only been almost 3 years for me and to this day I still regret not doing more for him.
I too hope that one day we will be reunited in some form.
Take care and thinking of you on this Father's Day weekend.
I hope you can find some peace because that's what your dad would want for you. .
My answer: Yes, there is.
Your question: "How do we know?"
My answer: I can't answer for "we," but I, myself, KNOW, not just believe, because I have seen the ghost of my dad, and I have witnessed spirits taking over bodies, and I heard the spirits talked through the host bodies. I have seen and heard the proofs, the evidence of life after death.
For people who need proofs to believe, but haven't seen, then it is difficult to believe something without proofs. Some people have faith, some people don't. And some will have to wait until they die to know there is life after death. Or if you're really interested to find out more, you can research and read what others have seen. There are tons of books about life after death, near death experiences, reincarnations. These are books written by doctors. Here are a couple of titles:
Touching Heaven: A Cardiologist's Encounters with Death and Living Proof of an Afterlife by Dr. Chauncey Crandall
Twenty Cases Suggestive of Reincarnation by Dr. Ian Stevenson
But Janet, I have some questions for you : Why are you looking forward to death? Do you have things to look forward to in life? Please answer.
But I have never seen a spirit take over a living person that would scare me...I know that doesn't make any sense. I guess, I am just use to seeing them in their natural form.
Wow, Polarbear you have seen a lot! You must have a great gift!😳
I'm not sure that bet-hedging is quite the same thing as faith. If you are blessed with faith, you are indeed blessed. If you are not but you feel the need for it, seek it. If you reject it, look into other philosophies and perhaps you will find different consolation there.
And Janet, it sounds to me as if the regrets you're struggling with need more immediate attention. Are you still watching your thread?
If Jesus' resurrection were not true, then why would so many willingly loose their life in the days of the early church and today over in Africa and China?
As the hymn says, "Because he lives
I can face tomorrow
Because he lives
All fear is gone
Because I know
He holds the future
And life is worth the living
Just because he lives."
Also, as the Apostle Paul wrote in I Corinthians 15 and I summarize, 'if Jesus is not risen, then our faith is in vain, we of all people should be pitied for that would mean that our sins are not forgiven'
"We know because we believe what the bible says. It is truly simple."
Your Dad probably forgave you long ago, forgive yourself.
Holding regrets and guilt is a stronghold of the devil.
Don't let him defeat you.
Praying you will find comfort in Jesus.
May God grant you peace and comfort with this trial you have carried for these many years. 35 years is too long to not forgive yourself. Please forgive yourself now. It serves no purpose to beat yourself up for something you did many years ago.
Parents are usually pretty forgiving, they remember being young and how hard growing up was, what seems like a huge thing to children or young people is typically not to an adult.
Haven't you ever seen a teenager that just thought their life was over for something that you knew was just out of control hormones? You knew that the catastrophe was just their lack of perspective and not really a big deal. Wonky hormones, poor teenagers.
I am looking forward to passing from this life because I want to shake this fallen world from my memory.
I pray that you can find forgiveness for yourself from yourself. If your dad loved you he would want you too, he would want you to be happy and not eat your heart out over whatever it was. That's what loving parents do. I imagine he was a loving dad or you would not be upset that you hurt him.
My mother passed away last week. My cousin, came in from North Carolina over memorial day holiday. Many relatives as well to bid goodbye..
My cousin saw my dad who died some 45 years ago carrying a baby. My parents lost an infant son. I firmly think my mom had an escort, a guide. To where, I don't know. This has been reported too,many times to be an anomaly.
How does that answer your question? I don't know. But I would imagine your father had one or more guides too.
I miss my dad too, who died 10 years before yours. But by my cousin seeing what she did, I am convinced of end of life guides. I hope this is a comfort to you.
Eta. This was same cousin who ran into my dad in Westminster Abbey years ago. London. What are the odds of that in actual life?
My Mom rejected it at 80+YO due to the child abuse horrors and coverups. Brave woman. Lost many so-called friends. I have a visceral disgust w/much of "organized religion" now. Although, I also have great friends who are very religious: we accept each other and don't judge. It works for us.
But I share your agnostic view for many reasons, not the least due to my experience in the desert of Afghanistan when I suddenly, unexpectantly, lost my lovely, vibrant, 25 YO husband. No, not in the War. Many years before....We were scientists on academic assignment.
He was granted a formal Hindu cremation. It was the most beautiful and memorable experience of my life. I won't share details but one of the most beautiful things I saw that day, following D's cremation service, was the wedding party, bride and groom in lovely, local finery, on a donkey cart, making their way to the same lovely little stonewalled courtyard for their nuptials.
LIFE is indeed a CIRCLE.
AND.....that is all I know for sure.
And all I need for living a good and giving life NOW.
I don’t believe in a Hell as most religions portray it. No fire, no pitchforks or any of that. My feeling is Hell is complete detachment from God. If there is no God, there’s no love, there’s no hope, no help. That would be the scariest, saddest life I can imagine. Kills you slowly from the inside.
Another angle is that we are living energy— what many call the soul. By default we would keep existing even if we’re not in the body anymore, because energy cannot be created or destroyed.
God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.
Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.
Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian
Once you begin reading about life after death, you'll realize that your dad already KNOWS you're sorry for the way in which you've behaved towards him because he is always with you and can hear you when you talk or pray to him! You don't need a medium to talk to your dad........you can do it directly!
Best of luck on your journey to learning the truth!
I just wanted to say that I have read a lot of books on this subject and had the pleasure to talk to people who had these life changing stories; there is no way these people made these stories up, plus, I have had some of my own experiences!
What a great answer lealonnie!
I think you should talk to your dad and maybe forgive yourself.
I do believe that there is life after death and I always did even before I started reading the bible. It is something I feel in my bone marrow!
2) By which also ye are saved...
3) ...how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; &
4) that he was buried, & He rose again the third day." (God raised Christ to show us that death isn't the end, & show that Christ's cross was acceptable payment for the sins of the world.)
None of us really know what happens after death. Some have found salvation and feel they will go to heaven and see those we have loved. My Mom had faith and knew where she was going. I know she is now pain free and whole again.