help or comprehend what you are going through with you parent(s)? The reason I ask is my (narc) mom often tells my brother of her woes with everything and tries to pit us against each other. This is when I take her to visit him. She is always telling me how much nicer he is to her than I am because he opens her car door occasionally. He is able to go out to eat with us and to do some shopping, but when mom insists on bringing her dog she has to sit in car with her. So usually cuts our visits short.
A little back story on this, brother has been in assisted living with schizophrenia since he was 19 and was instituonilized for years. My mom has given me hell all those years for not doing more because I was living my life for a few short yrs out of state. Meanwhile giving my dad who she's divorced from hell for whatever she could. I also had a brother commit suicide when he was 15 yrs old. I was 13 at the time and oldest brother 16.
I'm not sure how I made it this far. I had my dad up til 13 yrs ago and my mom made a scene and kept things in chaos the whole time he was in AL. His SO was there also. Peoples personalities are ramped up more when someone is dying and I found myself having to be the grounded one as I was the only one to handle things that he didn't get completely finished before he died. And I did that, lovinglywith help from a loving caring relative. I loved my dad. Almost immediately Mom started terrorizing me. She stole his thunder. She asks me did I wish it had been her instead.
So fast forward taking up where he left off with the brother. They had provided a way for him to keep a home in his name while mam was to take care of finances in any way possible.
But to my original question, does anyone else have a mentally ill sibling.?
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