Help me to get info on how to get him into a nursing home.

In order to get him into a nursing home emergently it is going to have to be an "emergency". That is to say you will have to have some crisis in which he falls or he becomes violent or he becomes ill or he wanders away or he starts a fire. or YOU fall or get ill and have to leave the home for the hospital. What I am saying is that I spent my life as a nurse. I have seen people come in the hospital and the family say "I cannot take him home; he cannot come back. I cannot do it physically. I cannot do it emotionally. I cannot do it at all. I will not take him back home". NOW, the personnel, social workers, docs, all there will try to figure out a way to change your mind. To tell you they will send help (they won't or will only briefly and then say it is not covered). Don't argue with them and NEVER GIVE AN INCH. Say "I will not take him home; if you send him home I will not open the door". Now you are down to a social worker arranging placement. She can do in one day what you cannot do over a years time, and that is get him placement whether you have finances or not. Now you will need, if you DO have financial assets, to go to an Elder Care Attorney and find out how best to protect income YOU may need when your time comes to need help. So that things are not drained away. You need help. The best help comes from placement with a social worker working in a hospital. That means a hospital visit and I don't much care what the excuse is to go to the ER. In fact I don't even care if it is a LIE. It is about all I know of that will work. If there is a lot of financial assets then you can work with people who take you to assisted living facilities and arrange you to choose what seems best for him. I don't know if you even have his diagnosis of dementia from a doctor. So sorry for where you are stuck.

Do you know these people? -

http://memorycarehs.org

They're a non-profit whose main focus is on supporting caregivers at home; but after a bit of digging around on their website I also see that they have good links with dementia care and memory care providers and facilities. There's a helpline number on the site - if I were in your place I think I'd give them a call.

PS - But what BB said first - talk to his doctor, and don't be shy about the impact your poor DH's condition is having on you. You matter too.

Start by talking to his doctor.

Is this new behavior that started suddenly? If it is, it may be hat he has a urinary tract infection. Make sure the doctor checks for that.

If he becomes out of control or violent, call 911 and have him taken to the ER.

I need to get him into a nursing how do i go about it?