Brother never formally been diagnosed. Mom is "planning in her head" about moving to assisted living. She has multiple joint replacements, osteoporosis, legally blind and hearing problems. House is 3 story with basement. She doesn't think there is a problem with current situation. Mom won't move and has been enabling brother for years. She is in denial. So is brother who works part time 20 hours @ $8 an hour and has music gigs on the side. They live together and he is great help when he is there. We (the sisters) live cross country. Need help with ideas to try with brother to move things forward so he can move on and so can she. Hard to pick a topic. This situation is so convoluted. Glisse1121
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Has she fallen and if so, does she fall regularly? Do you feel that if she has, it’s because she’s not being cared for properly? Are you aware if the house is clean, she is well-fed and her personal needs are met? Are her finances in order; bills paid, etc? Does she receive the meds she needs and go to her doctor regularly?
This is not a topic for long-distance discussions. Plan to visit Mom and Brother to scope things out and see if any intervention is truly needed.