My mom refuses to put on her pull ups & diarrhea goes on carpet. I need advice on how to get her to put on these pull-ups. Exhausted...

You might try to tackle the diarrhea as opposed to the pull up issue, have you consulted the doctor? There are many threads on the topic if you search the site, or perhaps post a new question asking for advice. Some things to consider

something in her diet may be causing it, for example many elders develop an intolerance to dairy

try giving her a probiotic capsule, or if she will drink it you could try kombucha

adding a psyllium fiber supplement (Metamucil) is helpful for diarrhea as well as constipation, just be sure she drinks enough so you don't end up with the opposite problem

if this is more of a problem with runny bowel movements than the need to go often and unexpectedly it might help to get her to the bathroom on a schedule so that she hopefully goes in the toilet - every 2 hours, or at least shortly after meals.

Thank you for all your advice. Unfortunately, my mom does have Alzheimer’s stage 6. I have done all the suggestions above. It’s 4:43 am & I just finished giving her a shower & cleaning up diarrhea again. I don’t want to put her in a home, but if this turns into around the clock care I will have no alternatives. This is a brutal disease. When I tried putting her in the shower she kept saying I didn’t do anything. They seriously don’t remember! Again, thank you.

With my mom (stage 6 Alzheimer’s) we used to have to tape the diapers on her because she’d pull them off and either pee or poo on the floor!!!!
She’d struggle all night to get them off so she could wet the bed or pull them down to go the floor.

I realize your mother might not have dementia. She’s fully aware of what she’s doing.

Could you just leave it there? She’d probably get pretty grossed out and talk to you about it. Then you could mention that she can clean it up and wouldn’t it be a great idea to wear something protective.

I would definitely have her doctor check her out because chronic diarrhea is not normal. Make sure she drinks enough water or electrolyte supplements to make up for the diarrhea.

If all else fails, tell her she’ll need to go to a facility where they can better care for her.

Good luck.

You might try having her doctor tell her to put them on for medical purposes. Or have someone she want to please give her some as a gift. With my mom we used the doctor to do it. He told her it would prevent bladder infection. Also let the Dr know she has bouts of incontinence.

This is something that I could never deal with, I would place her in assisted living.

Of course you can't physically force her but I don't see anything wrong with a little bit of coercion. I'd try a three pronged approach:

Take away all her underwear and replace them with pull ups. Get the pretty ones that are more underwear like, at least until she is accustomed to wearing them.

Hand her the mop and bucket and put her to work dealing with the consequences.

Tell her that you can't continue this way and if she doesn't do something to help you out you will have to look for alternate living arrangements. This sounds like a threat but in may cases dealing with incontinence is the tipping point that has caregivers looking at long term care, so it may also be the honest truth.