How do you deal with a spouse that has dementia, and is going blind but will not accept it and blames wife for it.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It must be very scary for your husband to be going through all this at such a relatively young age. Has he been prescribed any anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds....even a low dose? My husband is 67 and is being evaluated for dementia by a neurologist after being referred by his PCP. He was (is) also scared and angry...and directs his anger at me. However...his PCP also gave him the lowest dose of Lexapro possible at that same office visit and it has made ALL the difference in my husband's demeanor....no longer angry or mean or blaming. (However, I do not believe he is heading into dementia....I think it is something totally different...and his neuro knows of my suspicions for the next evaluation.) Also....are you able to get counseling for yourself at this time? Taking care of YOU is critical now. I am in counseling and it has helped a great deal. I truly hope you and your husband can find peace in this scary, troubling time. I know how heart wrenching it is to have your spouse be angry with you and blame you for something over which you have no control and for which you are NOT to blame.

Your husband is only seventy, and he is going blind - this is only my layman's guess - not because he has dementia and not because he's married to you but because he is a diabetic.

So he may be irrational in his anger, but you can still understand that he would be angry and afraid. What help do you have with looking after him? What options have you thought about? How long have you been his main caregiver?