APS is a good option, but, their loophole here on the state I live in is that people can live how ever they want unless declared incompetent. Getting an incompetent decision can not only be costly but may backfire too, as she may have a lucid day and fight it or someone else could fight you against her being placed in full custody of the petitioner. I am not saying you shouldn't but I do think maybe contacting a elder attorney maybe an option. If you have photos of her living conditions this may be helpful too. Best wishes on your situation that you may find resolve quickly to protect those who you care about.
I would report her to APS as a vulnerable senior living with potential fire hazard.
They do act when there is eminent danger and threat to life.
My mom is the same way, it's all good the only drain in the house that works is the bathtub. It only sparks on occasion. Ugh! I had to go in and have the work done and she wasn't happy about it because I made her pay for some of it, long story. (My mom doesn't have any dementia she would rather gamble all her money)
I would have contacted the authorities if I had known that they were living like that, something is very wrong with a mind that thinks living with no plumbing and electrical problems is just fine.
Your grandmother can no longer reason with the facts, it is time to intervene and get her to a safe place where she will be cared for. She will probably pitch a fit and be terribly unhappy, don't feel guilty and encourage her that it is for the best, help her set up her space and provide her with special treats monthly, make her new home better then her old in every way you can by doing little things that you never did before.
Best of luck, this is so difficult. You can do it! Hugs!
I agree with calling an agency in to evaluate her. You cannot handle this on your own. Grandma is probably suffering from dementia or some sort of mental issues. When she sees her house, she is not aware that it’s falling down around her.
Do you have any family members who can help you with this?
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They do act when there is eminent danger and threat to life.
My mom is the same way, it's all good the only drain in the house that works is the bathtub. It only sparks on occasion. Ugh! I had to go in and have the work done and she wasn't happy about it because I made her pay for some of it, long story. (My mom doesn't have any dementia she would rather gamble all her money)
I would have contacted the authorities if I had known that they were living like that, something is very wrong with a mind that thinks living with no plumbing and electrical problems is just fine.
Your grandmother can no longer reason with the facts, it is time to intervene and get her to a safe place where she will be cared for.
She will probably pitch a fit and be terribly unhappy, don't feel guilty and encourage her that it is for the best, help her set up her space and provide her with special treats monthly, make her new home better then her old in every way you can by doing little things that you never did before.
Best of luck, this is so difficult. You can do it! Hugs!
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Do you have any family members who can help you with this?