How do I go about getting my husband paid for taking care of my dad?

Is he on Medicare or Medicaid? Medicare doesn’t pay family members for care. Is your FIL a veteran, preferably during war time? You may be able to get Aid and Attendance to use for services to help care for his dad. The money has to be used for care. They do audits periodically. You will have to pay it back if there is fraud involved.

Best of luck to you. I’m in the same boat. I care for my mom. I understand how tough it is. Take care.