I have a mother who was put in an assisted living by other family members. She hates it and wants to go home. I am the POA, i just had her evaulated but have not received the results. I'm assuming she will be able to go home, but this will cause a family fight, any suggestions. Her facility is more like a nursing home which she doesn't need. She is having short term memory issues.
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PERIOD. It is time now to cut out the extraneous fat in the issue. Good luck! Update us if you get a chance with a "Mom's Evaluation" note; I am curious how this will work out for you and Mom. Again, wishing you the best of luck as you fight for what is best for Mom. Remember, her safety is paramount.
As to not liking Assisted Living or other facilities, do let me know when you find ANY senior who does. End of life stuff isn't always about "liking". It can be an impossibility. Hugs to you.
If she has cognitive decline or dementia, it will likely progress and she'll need increasing amounts of assistance. An assessment should be able to tell what level of care she needs. That is, if they had the right information to complete it. My LO would say that she was fine at home, that she could bathe herself, prepare meals, take meds, do laundry, but, none of that was true. She was not aware of just how poor her abilities were. Sometimes, short term memory issues come along with decreases in proper judgment, so, that things like safety measures, using walker, not opening door to strangers, etc. goes downhill.
I'd likely read a lot of posts on boards like this. You might also spend a full day with her, so you can see just what she is needing. A short visit may not reveal the full picture. The person may not be the best one to determine where they are safest. Nursing homes are really designed for those who need nursing care. Maybe, you could find a good fit for her needs. I read a lot about family members with good intentions who don't realize just how much help the LO needs, until they get back home and it becomes abundantly clear. There's a lot of that around this site.
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