How to make it comfortable for my daughter-in-law when it is necessary for me to be in their home for two weeks?

Tutgrum,

I hope you have a wonderful time with your son and daughter-in-law. I pray I am as considerate and gracious as you when I grow up!

All problems resolved with honest communication re; schedules and private times, my room is lovely, private bath,
I arrived very tired, Florida to N. C have all the down time I wish, so I am blessed and all worry was for naught.
Thanks for all your kind responses

Iam staying for 2+weeks, the son and wife Imlivecwith are on a 2 week vacation, I am physically able to do all tasks involved in caring for myself, the meals are prepared by my daughter in- law, she is always kind and considerate, they have a well scheduled life, I just don’t want to invade their privacy, or space. Also do damage to any of things provided for me.

Why is it "necessary" to be in her home for two weeks? Will you be recovering from surgery? Will she need to take care of you? The answers to this question could be all over the place depending on the circumstances of the visit.

All good answers. Bring a small thoughtful gift, Don't overstay your welcome in the moment. excuse yourself to give them privacy when the moment comes and find time to get to know her better

What a thoughtful, caring question!

This weekend my son and his wife will be visiting and staying at my home for the first time as a married couple (they got married two months ago). I want to make sure that SHE is comfortable in MY home. I have been having fun redecorating my son’s old room with that in mind. I will return the visit a couple of weeks later. They have already set up and decorated a room they call the “Mom room”. I like the idea of bringing a hostess gift and taking them out to dinner one night.

Are you able to take care of your own needs, like showering, changing, laundry, etc. ? IF not, I'd let her know what you need help with in advance. Also, I'f offer to bring some food or go to grocery for certain things. If you prefer to have eggs for breakfast, let her know or if just toast and coffee works for you. If you want to take her and your son out for dinner on weekend, I'd let her know, so she can arrange schedule and know how many nights she needs to prepare dinner with you in mind. When I'm house guest, I say, I'll do dinner on these nights by ordering take out for everyone, what kind of things do you like? That way she's not planning meals everyday. I'd also take a tablet or book to read so you can retire to your room some evenings and let her and their family unwind in the living room. It's a little tiring to have to entertain all day and night. Also, I always take a thoughtful gift that shows you are thinking of your host(es), like a nice plant, herbs, wine, etc.

Then I don't understand at all? Why would you not be comfortable? Why would SHE not be comfortable? I regularly visit family, often for a month at a time. Not to say it always goes PERFECTLY every single second, but it surely goes well enough to overall have a great time. So I am in the fog of why this question would even come up.

Agree that more info would be helpful.

But, generally speaking, I guess try to be a good houseguest.

Hi Tutgrum21, can you please provide more info? Like, why are you staying with them...for medical reasons? How old are you and what are your abilities? Does your DIL work? If so, how much? Will the house be crowded with you there? Can you drive yourself? Etc. Thanks!