Tips, products, etc., when they are pooping on themselves, missing the toilet, getting it on the floor, etc....HELP!!

When a Caregiver has the sort of situation you have described, we usually recommend that the person they are caring for be more closely supervised in the bathroom. That doesn’t mean you need to follow her in and stare at her, but when she reaches for a washcloth, gently take it away and hand her a wad of toilet paper. Try to determine when she needs to go and get her to the toilet before it’s a done deed. If she is suffering from loose stools that make it difficult for her to control, speak with her doctor about her diet. People with dementia often don’t recognize the signs that they need to move their bowels. Encouraging her to use the toilet every few hours may help. Also, of you don’t have a handicap accessible toilet, you might want to get one.