How to cope with my father (89)? He asks to go home and asks for my deceased mother all the time, then gets angry all the time.

Baba, this is so difficult to deal with, I know. Some of it is due to the disease. People with dementia still have emotions. A lot of those emotions they had before seem to be magnified when they have dementia. With my mom, it was paranoia, anxiety and negativity. My mom would be so negative and sometimes accusatory that I’d tell her I had to go and get up to leave. Then, she’d burst into tears and beg me to stay. Made me feel awful, you know? Just like a lot of other stuff, sometimes it’s just something you have to tolerate.

Baba, the patient instructions for Levaquin (what your dad is taking) say to report behavioral changes to the prescribing doctor immediately. Has the doctor discontinued the medication?

Is this a change in your dad's behavior that only started with the antibiotic? Does he have a UTI?

Levaquin CAN cause delirium or psychosis in elderly patients. It's rare, but so was the side effect from a different antibiotic that shut down my liver.

Make sure the doctor takes this seriously, or take dad to the ER.

Have you spoken to his doctor about these behaviors? Meds can help.