My husband and I had my Mother for 11 years before she passed and his Mother for 5 years. Three years we had both in our home. We had to put my MIL in Assisted Living as she became rude, complained about everything any chance she had and was never thankful. She has 6 sons, the oldest kicked her out after 4 months, she lived with another about a year, and we turned her care over to the oldest who now wants nothing to do with her and told her she needs to find another caregiver. She called me to ask if she can come back to live with us, but, I just don’t think I can do it. She doesn’t even like me and her son and I have been married for 42 years.
I have a soft heart so I’m torn. She expects you to wait on her hand and foot and complains if you go anywhere. Please.... What to do?
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You MORE than did your part. Refuse to entertain the idea of her leaving AL. She can ask the other sons. Aren't there 3 that haven't had the pleasure of taking her in yet?
At 11 years I think you’ve done your part.
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I would suggest assisted living is best for her so she can have the attention and care she needs, while you have your life.
Tell her that she needs and deserves "staff" to tend her every need and that you know you will disappoint in that area, as you did in the past.
I'm not implying that your care was wanting. Some folks are too demanding to be borne.
Just Say No.
Best of luck sticking to your guns!!