I dropped off my mom to the hospital because she was complaining of pain, can't walk also incontinence. The hospital admitted, but I told them I can't take care of her any more. I need a place for her. I did what they told me, but the agency doesn't call me back. I have to travel because it's a requirement for my job. I am far away, I can't go and pick her up. I don't have anybody to help close. All my other family is far away also. I'm very confused. I don't know what to do.
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The hospital discharge coordinator will be your point person and you want them on your side so make sure they know you are doing everything you can and be clear about wanting to care for her but just not being able too (you travel for work) a FaceTime or Skype meeting with them can be very useful to drive home all of these facts. I did this when my mom was in the hospital after her stroke and he would have sent her to a nursing home without our involvement but I was still 350 miles away, my brother had just gone home thinking the timing was good I think but the guy mentioned she still qualified for short term intensive rehab and that would be better for her aphasia but he wasn’t sure he could get a bed fast enough or something so I took the names of the stepped up rehab options, called each of them as well as her PC and family who had some experience for references and found a bed in the two best options on paper, my brother went to visit each of them that night and we chose one, she was moved I think the next day while her mobility challenges, which were getting better rapidly, still qualified her for this stepped up service (she got PT, OT and ST 2-3 times a day as opposed to 2 times a week in NH type rehab). Anyway my point being that our involment kept him from doing the easy dump into a NH where she wouldn’t have improved as well partly because we did the work after he gave me the information but they were never considering sending her home yet. There is often more than one choice with one being the easy one for them and doing leg work, expressing your desires and doing a little pushing back in a diplomatic way without taking on her care is just fine and may help get you mom into the best intubation for both of you now, safe for her and less stressful/worrisome for you.