Does a nurse have the right to ask you to leave during personal care when you are guardian of your grandpa?

Do you think your grandpa would want you to see his "private parts" if he understands what is going on? Even if he has dementia, honor what he would have wanted in his right mind. It is about HIS dignity and showing respect for him. There is NO WAY I would ever want my daughters to see me getting a bath or having a brief changed! The are also laws relating to dignity and privacy and a facility could get into big trouble (and rightly so) if these are not followed. The facility should have a "Patient Bill of Rights". Please ask and read this.

I would have to agree with everyone here. When my dad was in the hospital (for part of what would be his last week of his life) and an aid came in to change him I left the room without being asked to give my dad his privacy. I knew that my dad would not want me to see him that way and I didn't want to see it; furthermore, when he called for me the aid simply told him I was right outside the door and would be right back when they were done. Why would you want to be in the room? Do you think they would do something to your grandfather?

I always thought that my mom had the right to her privacy during personal care.

Of course, if the nurse thinks that your being there is not best for the patient. Most people prefer not to be observed when they are receiving personal care or managing it for themselves, don't they?

But this seems to have offended you: did you have any objection to stepping out of the room for the time being? Any concerns about the personal care being given?

I think this journey needs to be focused on grandpa's dignity and not your rights. You don't want to go to war with his caregivers. If you think that they are harming him or doing something inappropriate you need to file a complaint.

What is the reason that you want to remain present while he is receiving personal care?

Sometimes, the staff think that the family is not comfortable with observing personal care and they think that they are being nice by giving you permission to step out of the room. Other times, some staff are just not comfortable being watched, kind of like anyone would be uncomfortable if someone were watching over their shoulder while trying to do their job. You could try to say something like, "it's ok, I'm used to it, if you don't mind, I'll just stand over here, I won't get in the way, and let me know if I can help you in any way". Whether they have a "right" to ask you to leave, no I don't think so.

Maybe you Gfather would be more comfortable with you not there. I know I wouldn't want to be there when an aide was doing her job. I think though, they cannot keep u from staying.

Yes, if she is bathing the patient it is part of the privacy protocol for the paitent, no matter who you are. It is about dignity and privacy. I am assuming this is about bathing. There are other procedures to do with catheters and such, and there are suctioning procedures that can be uncomfortable to see. So this is often the way. Certainly, if you wish to stay you can ask the nurse why you, as the guardian, must leave. She will discuss things with you I would hope.

Why are you asking this when he's in a nursing home and they are doing their job and why do you want to watch? I never considered this question when they did personal care for my mother in the nursing home.

I wouldn't want to stay. Preserve his privacy and dignity. I wouldn't even want my adult daughters present if it was me.