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synapse Asked November 2019

Worried about elderly mothers mental health. What do I do?

What do I do if mother doesn't admit she has a problem. She blames me for everything and I only see her once per week. Today was the last straw. She projects her own miseries onto me and says I'm like this too, which I'm not.

anonymous912123 Nov 2019
My mother is that way too, when she started I would pick up my things and leave, no comments, no nothing. If she would call me later that day I wouldn't answer.

Eventually she asked me about leaving, I explained it to her and let her know that I would continue to leave when she got nasty. She would be good for a short period of time, then the abuse would start all over again.

I have not spoken to her in 8 years and will not go back again, I do not need this toxic manipulative person in my life.

lealonnie1 Nov 2019
If your mother is anything like mine, she will NEVER admit she has a problem. Blame is their middle name. Next time she starts her negative projections, tell her you will be leaving now & will be back another time when she's in a better mood. If you use that line with her every time, she will eventually get the message that you mean business!
Best of luck!

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gladimhere Nov 2019
What kind of problem? How old is mom?

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