Trustee fee?

Regardless of whether the topic is brought up or not, Taarna's suggestion to keep track of what you do for a few month's is good. Generally 2 months should cover the bulk of what you have to do, but there will be random appointments, etc. I did start a document with accounts, names, addresses, to give to brother in case for some reason he had to take over (he is also POA.) At the bottom, I used my pocket calendar to post ALL the appts she went to or had upcoming, as well as when I dropped off meds (regular and OTC), panties, etc. I had to keep track of me, her, my cats, and other stuff, so calendar in purse was the best option! It came in handy when I wanted to document all of this. Having it all there supports effort. I don't discuss what I have been using with them. They have issue, tough tookies. Non-local bro did nothing before or since the condo prep/sale, and even that was a couple of weeks when he came up for a week or so (he also got paid for plane fare and rental car, but not gas, for when he didn't drive up.) Other bro - again, didn't do nearly as much, often doesn't even respond to inquiries, requests for comment, etc. For all the grief, I don't feel bad about taking what I do. It has cost me financially to help out AND has ruined 5+ years of retirement. By the time he retires, she'll be gone (he is 10 yr younger, she's 96.)

The amount you have taken is a pittance. It equates to 86/wk, 375/month. As far as claiming income, a good tax preparer should be able to handle this - due to mom's condo being a "life estate", when we sold it while she was still living (in MC), the IRS tables were used, so she got a bit, and the 3 of us got the rest, however we put it all back into the trust for HER. Tax person estimated what this would cost us in cap gains, and I distributed enough trust $ to cover that for the 3 of us.

For the last year or two mom was still in her condo, I became the regular go-to. That was bad enough, it was 1.5hr each way just to get there! I did take over her bills, but except for the initial temp forward of mail to get all bills and change billing address, that wasn't too bad. The appts, etc started to wear me down. Then finding a place, arranging to get her there (she didn't want to move anywhere), getting the bros on board (that was almost as much or more work!), added more on my plate (one bro isn't local, the other often didn't respond to requests for help.)

After the move, more financial stuff, getting rep payee for SS and federal pension, juggling/keeping track of her finances (trust money needed for about 1/2 of her expenses, sometimes needs adjustments.) Then about 1.75 YEARS to get condo cleared out, cleaned up, repaired, etc so we could sell it. Didn't want the RE part of this, but realized local bro would drop the ball too often, so I took that on too. At closing, in talking with atty, I said I didn't take anything as the documents don't say I can. His reply was that they don't say I can't either. Non-local bro had several times told me to take something, but I said no. More recently, as this becomes a serious strain on my fixed income (retired, not enjoying ANY of my retirement other than I don't have to work a "real" job), I do sometimes use her debit card to buy my gas or some little item(s) I need when buying something she needs. Nowhere near 375/m, but just a bit here and there to offset the gas used running around for her!

Even now that local bro thinks it is all taken care of! NO CLUE! There are still appts, OTC and med management, non-covered supplies like tissues, disposable undies, bed pads, calls from facility about whatever... recently I had to defer appts to him or we use transport ($$$) because she has fear of falling and won't stand/walk on her own - I can't support her weight, so that's that. But, there still is SO much that has to be done/managed. Easier now without the condo to pay for, but still takes my time, gas and efforts!