My dad is getting transferred from his nursing home to a senior behavioral unit at the local hospital. His crime (so to speak) is using sexual suggestions with the staff and exposing himself to one of the other residents who they said did not object. Matter of fact, my dad and she have become a couple there, holding hands, kissing and spending all public time together. The problem is that her family has told her and the home that she is not to go anywhere around him any more. I know he is in the wrong, but I wonder if this is just their way of getting a problem off their hands?
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I hoped he would benefit from closer observation and care by people whose skills exceeded those in the LTC facility, but now . . . . 20 minutes ago he called to tell me people had taken over his condo, were drugging him, were holding him prisoner and "yanking him around." (Turns out they insisted that he shower when he didn't want to. And of course he's right that they are drugging him, trying to find a combination that calms him without dangerously sedating him. Trial and error. Imperfect science.
Trying to apply the techniques I've learned on this site, I said, "Oh, no! I'm sorry! How can I help?" He was clear: Contact an attorney and "the sheriff" to remove these people from his home, and bring him the condo title now so he could prove his ownership. At this point I broke the rules and tried to reason with him: You're actually in a hospital; the people are medical staff trying to help you get better. You (and your condo) are safe.
He turned on me. He can't trust me. I'm conspiring with "them" against him. Now he demands proof that this is ia hospital. Who admitted him? Why? I
I said it's night-time now, but I'll see what I can do tomorrow.
I can't do anything tomorrow. I don't know who admitted him. I don't know what comes next.
Let us know what you learn. You're not alone, if that's any comfort at all.
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A NH can't monitor residents 24/7. Too many of them. Don't expect to keep the "lovebirds" separated. In their minds they are boyfriend and girlfriend. My daughter had a couple that thought they were married. Slept in the same room. Both had spouses that visited. If u tried to separate the couple they would make a scene. So, the NH had to let it go.
That said, your father is exhibiting inappropriate sexual behavior aka ISB which is common with dementia. You mention your dad has Parkinsons....do you think he's also suffering from Dementia? He can't be exposing himself or making lewd comments to the staff without repercussions. There are drugs that can be prescribed for ISB, and he's likely being sent to the behavioral unit for diagnosis and medication. He should then be released back to his NH once that's been done.
All the residents who live together in a communal care environment need to feel safe and the facility is within their rights to have your father evaluated, for everyone's sake. Good luck.....hoping for the best possible outcome here.
I am not sure what the behavioral health unit entails. Can you ask them at the facility? Are you allowed to visit?
Best wishes to you and your dad. Others will have answers for you.