My son and I do not get along very well and he doesn't think I need to be anywhere around my ex where in fact my ex and I were planning to be remarried before his stroke and have been talking. I even spent time with him after his stroke. Now that he is home I'm forbidden to be anywhere around by my son because he has power of attorney. Can he do this with this power of attorney? If I do go what could be the consequences? He claims he will have me thrown in jail. Can he do this even though I have caused no harm and my ex wants me to move back in which we had planned previously? What power does he really have over us being together? We were married for 32 years and divorced after the death of our daughter for only 2 years and realized we still loved each other very much and planned on re marrying . My ex is still in his right mind but forgets a lot. He's recently told me to come home but I'm being banned even from phone calls. I desperately want to be with him because I love him so much and he loves me and they are lying to him tell him my phone is broke and that's why I don't call. When I do call my daughter who stays with him on her phone won't let me talk to him. Please I need some help. I need some advice.
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It might be best to get a lawyer or a family mediator to handle this for you, and see what contact with your ex-husband can be negotiated. If you want your good intentions to be trusted and taken seriously, do not do anything irresponsible like turn up on the doorstep and create conflict.
I would go with the first option and talk to your son. Convince him that you just want to see his father, and you believe that is your ex's wish as well. If you can work out something with your son, I would take it SLOW. Don't go in there with claims of reconciliation and remarriage. Just go to visit, enjoy your time together, and then leave. I know it's easier said than done, but try to leave the baggage at the door. :-)
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There seems to be a lot of animosity between you and your adult children, from what you said. You also say your ex is in his right mind but forgets a lot. Do you know who doesn't forget a lot...your adult son and daughter.
You aren't doing anyone any good making all of this about you.
I think you should step back. And that is my opinion.
Protecting their own inheritance is perhaps the most likely answer, even though it’s the nastiest. If this is not true, perhaps making it clear to them will resolve the problem. At the moment you apparently can’t be close to both your ex and your children. Perhaps you know why, and could work on that problem.