My 92yr old mom lives with us. Any advice?

Have you asked older sister WHY she is getting the SS $ and HOW it is being spent? WHY haven't you put your mom in a home? Are the siblings guilting you into being the caregiver?

In your profile you state that you live behind her. Do you now live with her? Your profile shares some troubling information. If your older sister is guardian and her SS representative payee, you should let HER take care of your mother. Haven't you done your part?

Who else is in your family? Husband, children? Do you work? If so, why not? I hope you didn't retire early to take care of your mother.

Out of 7 siblings, you shouldn't be the only one to do the hands-on caregiving (you did say, though, that a younger sister helps out a bit). Why did you agree to this situation?

Contact Council on Aging in your area. They will do an assessment on her. At her age she should qualify. They generally have four hour shifts in which they will bathe her if desired, fix a light meal. tidy her room, play cards or other activities with her if she desires.

Most times there is a wait list so call as soon as possible. The service is free.

Or you can call an organization and pay per hour. Visiting Angels, Home Instead, etc. Google caregivers in your area. Usually $20 to $25 an hour. Four hour shifts are the norm.

I have been there. I know it’s hard. Hugs.