We put her in a very expensive board and care where she has been for over a year. She gets wonderful care though she is extremely difficult. Truly we did not think she would live this long. Owners have raised rates. Now 95 year old dad needs full time care and wants to stay in home. I’m completely overwhelmed even though we have several options. I have looked at less expensive facilities and am wracked with guilt for moving mom at this time though she’s not very cognizant. She recognizes me sometimes. Mostly she lives to eat and complain. But she needs and gets attention constantly where she is. That would not happen in cheaper community facility. They would not respond to her constant demands for care and attention. As she was always a demanding and self-centered person, I can’t sleep thinking of how awful it would be to downgrade her this late in life. Suggestions/advice/support/admonishment? I can take it. Just trying to do the right thing. Thanks for listening to this long post.
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My mother is 93 later this month & living in Memory Care, exactly like your mother.........lives to EAT (a LOT) and complain 24/7. She can eat a truck driver under the table, truthfully........meaning she appears to be in no imminent danger of death. Her money will run OUT in about 18 months so I'll have to go thru the agony of applying for Medicaid & placing her in a Skilled Nursing home that won't pay half the attention to her she's getting now. What other choice do I have? She's wheelchair bound and has about 10 health issues (including 100% incontinence) which I cannot (and will not) handle in my home, so there's no other alternative.
We do our best for our parents and then we have to just let go and let God handle the rest, right?
Wishing you all the best.
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