Will try to make this short. She has been a widow for 2 yrs frm a second husband that was controlling but now she is just out of control. She spends money like Crazy will listen to none of us about anything. She continually outdoes everyone no matter what it is....illness, money, anything. She will say she’s dying but has been to drs and they say she is fine. She repeats herself and when we try and help her she thinks she knows better and makes things a mess.
she wants to sell her house (-after falling down next to the bayou and she can’t swim) so we helped her for her a realtor and she fought with us an the realtor saying she knew her house is with a million dollars and forced the realtor to list for that and the appraisal was less than half that.
Its impossible to be with her and to be honest so frustrating and when she knows she pushed too far she will use the I’m old and you need to be patient with me routine. I think the toughest part is she constantly talks about sex and how men chase her even when we say stop she says it’s what real life is about.
So any advice would be appreciated because my husband, brother in law, sister in law and I are at a loss. Thanks
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Take her on a tour of some nice assisted living facilities, get her moved in, and keep contact as minimal as possible after that. You don't need the aggravation.
It also sounds like she has dementia, big time. See about getting her into the doctor for an evaluation and an assessment as to where s/he thinks MIL belongs now; in Independent Living or Assisted Living, etc. Then you can help her move accordingly, preferably into a community with a continuum of care where she can segue from IL into AL as needed.
Wishing you the best of luck!
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