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Floridagirl6 Asked March 2020

Mom lives in a double room and they keep bringing new roommates in every time somebody is waiting for a room to themselves.

So mom moved into this room a few months back and is now on her 3rd roommate that's only expected to be there for 2-3 weeks when she will get another roommate. Mom is starting to have issues from all the changing all the time, as soon as she gets used to someone they move that person out and the same day move another person in. It's disruptive. IS this normal for them to totally disregard my moms well being? She's lost almost 10 pounds and doesn't feel like she has her own place since this began in Jan. Can't they look for a permanent roommate for her and use another room as the revolving door of people coming in and out? I'm starting to feel like they're doing this intentionally. I realize others have a right to a bed, it just seems a bit much. My mom is normally the happiest person, never argues with the girls or screams and she's been a roller coaster of emotion not understanding why they're always moving everything around. What can I say or do if anything? Help please!!!

Geaton777 Mar 2020
Similar issue with my MIL on Medicaid but not as extreme as your mom's case. She's in a nice, well-run facility but there tends to be a lot of turnover in those rooms. I would politely keep poking the admin to improve this since the constant changing is having a detrimental affect on your mom (and tell them the symptoms you listed here so they don't think you're just a whiner). I like sending emails so that I can be composed in my thoughts and have a written record of what I told them and when. Then just keep following up.
Floridagirl6 Mar 2020
Thanks Geaton777 great idea!
gladimhere Mar 2020
Is mom on Medicaid which will pay for semi-private rooms? Would mom be able to get a private room?

I understand the disruption. Have you talked with the facility? Does this happen with other residents in semi-private rooms?

Talk to mom's doctor about how disruptive this is for mom and how her behavior is impacted. If doc will order a stop to this revolving door it may at least slow the constant flow of traffic.
Floridagirl6 Mar 2020
We had a private room but moved her to a room for 2 for financial reasons. Yes, I talked to them and the ED said something to the effect of,,, "Are we supposed to turn down people that need the bed because of your mom" (about the lady that was spitting across the room and hitting people, moaning at all hours, then this 2nd roommate screams at mom to get out of HER room), uh, no but to turn her room into a revolving door of different people every few weeks isn't helping my mom. I will talk to her doctor.

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