I understand it is now impossible to see his Doctor due to the corona virus, but when the ban is lifted our loved one has lost all bowel and urinary control. I wanted him to see him previously but he refused to go. I am his POA as well as his family. The social worker says he has the right to refuse and is in sound mind. And then she calls us because he doesn't want to take his pills and is medicated to the point of laying 24/7 day after day like a sardine in bed. This is inhumane. What do I do? Do I need a lawyer since the ombudperson said they can't enforce anything. I just want what he would want if he were in his right mind.
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Cant eat, only drink and he wants to get well so bad! They intimidate him to say NO he doesn't want to go to the doctor because he tells us he does.
He said they kept harassing him over and over again until he said yes to take the drugs. I had to write a letting stating HE and his POA does not want psych drugs or legal action will happen. YES he is being abused. YES the food is not fit for my dog. YES. he lies 24/7 on a cot sometimes they don't even change him. I can't help him since it is on lockdown. AND he is supposed to get a supplemental drink from day 1 and he never received ONE DRINK! They told me this. I asked why? It was because we were buying him ensure,
We want him home to live out his life.
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NO tv, no phone, no decent food, no ensure (he was supposed to receive it 3 x days. Social worker is the devil incarnate. He wanted to go home and she kept saying tell her no, you don't want to leave. His doctor wants to see him. she said he might have a very serious infection. What kind of life is suffering 24/7 in the dark and sleeping 24/7 and out of it? PEOPLE IN JAIL have it better than him.
That is why he gave us the medical power of attorney to help him when he is unable to help himself.
Someone said if the doctor can't help us we will have to get a lawyer.
Unless you gain guardianship, you cannot force care on him.
What is he is rehab for? Did he have surgery? Anesthesia can often cause dementia to progress rapidly.
What kind of psych meds are they giving him? Are they for agitation, depression, acting out behaviors?
He was not acting out, he was sleeping coming off of the phenobarbital. He was getting so well after only two weeks. He knew everyone and was eating beef sandwiches and just needed therapy to strengthen his leg muscles.
Now it is terrible and he looks like someone in a concentration camp.
I have not needed to use this paper so far-but definitely was an uphill battle to get signed up as her "representative" regarding. health care plan, viewing insurance claims, changing her address to mine so mail would be received and dealt with promptly. Sis is compliant with meds, with a few exceptions months ago, before she was hospitalized due to extreme agitation and trying to escape community. It has been uphill battle to keep last facility from over medicating they caused endless problems regarding RX changes that were approved by me and her neurology team. Neurology staff told me the nurse was impossible on the phone when they told facility nurse "we don't want the resident to be over medicated. period. I am thankful for doctor and team supporting me and giving much needed back up against impossible odds at last facility. Same nurse was pure evil reporting me as yelling at her and hanging up the phone. I have everything to loose by doing such a thing in the first place-knowing the first thing they would do is hurt/neglect my sister to get back at me.
This is so terrifying. Prisoners are in better conditions than he is.
As I wrote he went in to gain weight. They put him on psych drugs, we stopped them immediately but the damage was done. He wouldn't eat, hardly drink anything, lays in bed, lost bowel and urinary control, no physical therapy given since it was only for 2 weeks, they will not fix his phone after I asked them more than 12 times. They are supposed to give him a supplement drink. Nothing from day 1. We buy the ensure. 24/7 lying on a cot is inhuman.
The social worker is a devil incarnate. Lies.
When he first got there, everyone seemed so nice and then they changed when we seen what they were trying to do. To sabotage him from getting well.
They wanted the monthly paycheck and he would never get out unless we get a lawyer.
They intimidate him to say no he doesn't want to go to doctor, but I called during lunch and so did his brother and we got him to say what he truly wanted, which was he wanted to see his doctor and go home.
I see they also played that game of yelling and hanging up, but mine was a pretend yelling, which I wasn't at all, the nurses told me I wasn't, and then I wasn't even talking, and she was still saying I was yelling!
Omnbuds person was no help either. If they get paid for doing this, then that job should be eliminated. I told her his phone didn't work, they sent her to someone else, because he said he never talked to her. I told her he isn't getting physical therapy, the person that was on the phone said yes I get physical therapy. I told that to her and she never called me back.
Something needs to change. I guess if getting him going to the doctor doesn't get him out of there, we will be getting a lawyer involved or a letter from his doctor.
Your response really helped me.
If your loved one doesnt want to see a doctor or take pills, that is his right. You can't care more about his situation than he does himself.
Have you asked the SW to obtain a hospice evaluation?