How do I stop sister from using revoked POA on our mother?
My sister was POA for mother for about 6 months. Then mother changed it to me as her POA. My sister keeps representing herself as mother's POA and she knows that her POA was revoked. Isn't this illegal? What should I do?
Mother lives with Sister #1 during the week. S1 is compensated for her caregiving time (through a contract, presumably). You as finance POA handle mother's living and other expenses.
Mother stays with you at weekends. You have finance and healthcare POAs. You receive no compensation for your time. You were given both POAs by your mother 'several' years ago - how many, roughly?
Sister #3 did have POA for your mother for about six months prior to mother's changing her mind and giving POA to you instead. Is there any relevant history behind that decision?
S1 'is now developing a mindset that she should have all mother's money.' ? In what sense? And do you mean that S3 is attempting to meddle with bank accounts, or engaged in 'fact-finding' about them, or something like that?
To whom is your sister representing herself as having POA for your mother?
Does your sister dispute that your mother was competent to change her POA?
What actually matters is whether your sister's (mis)representation of her authority is effective or not. Is she doing anything with it that creates a problem?
It sounds as though you're forming a hope that your sister can be rapped over the knuckles for an illegal act and forced to desist by The Authorities. Well, possibly, theoretically; but wouldn't it be better to focus on the practicalities? That's why I ask what she's been up to.
Is your sister receiving a salary for her five working days? She deserves a salary. I suppose you know if you had to hire someone to care for her it would cost quite a bit. If she was in assisted living or memory care it would be costly as well.
My question was about a revoked poa, not anything about compensation or care. But just to clarify, the sister that cares for her is well compensated. Thanks anyway though.
Momma13, how and where is she representing herself as PoA? In reading your profile it seems the issue may be that your sister is dependent upon the money she receives from caring for your mom -- do you think she should be doing it for free? If you work you can't care for her anyway and as your mom's ALZ progresses maybe it will be too much for your sister to care for her. What would you like to see happen? Just for your sister to acknowledge and accept that she is no longer PoA? Or for her to give up caregiving her, or to do it for no compensation?
My question was about a revoked poa, nothing about compensation or care. But just to clarify, this is a different sister that is using the poa and not the one that cares for her whom is well compensated. Thanks anyway though.
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Mother lives with Sister #1 during the week. S1 is compensated for her caregiving time (through a contract, presumably). You as finance POA handle mother's living and other expenses.
Mother stays with you at weekends. You have finance and healthcare POAs. You receive no compensation for your time. You were given both POAs by your mother 'several' years ago - how many, roughly?
Sister #3 did have POA for your mother for about six months prior to mother's changing her mind and giving POA to you instead. Is there any relevant history behind that decision?
S1 'is now developing a mindset that she should have all mother's money.' ? In what sense? And do you mean that S3 is attempting to meddle with bank accounts, or engaged in 'fact-finding' about them, or something like that?
Does your sister dispute that your mother was competent to change her POA?
What actually matters is whether your sister's (mis)representation of her authority is effective or not. Is she doing anything with it that creates a problem?
It sounds as though you're forming a hope that your sister can be rapped over the knuckles for an illegal act and forced to desist by The Authorities. Well, possibly, theoretically; but wouldn't it be better to focus on the practicalities? That's why I ask what she's been up to.
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