My mother is 94, has LBD. Have had responsibility of her going on 3 years. 2 yrs in my house. She has nothing financially but small SS Ck. She contributes zero to household. She made no plans for old age.
She is down right mean, nothing new, self centered nothing new and mix dementia to it and it’s a battle everyday.
If I take our, husband and myself retirement to put her in a home then I will have nothing. I have ck into MediCal in Ca and they said she would have to sign to receive and she refuses. I have talked to Social Worker and she helped me find a great daycare but needed MediCal and she refused to go on MediCal to go. Her Dr told me to take her to ER and tell them she needed to be placed in a home due to her condition and we sat there 12 hours and they said can’t help you.
I do not have POA, sister in FL has and says it can’t be changed because of her diagnosis. Sister went to an attorney and ask could we get her declared incompetent and was told it would be long, drawn out and expensive. Does anyone from CA have any suggestions where I can go to get her out of my home. I cannot do this any longer.
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why can’t your sister handle the medi-cal stuff? She can fill out the Medi-cal paper work and sign on your moms behalf. It can all be done online. Social services is still open, they are processing medi-cal applications.
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When they call you tell them that she is not safe at your home. NOT SAFE, NOT SAFE, NOT SAFE. These are the words that get attention.
Please do not use your retirement to help her. She will buck and snort, stick to your NOT SAFE. No need to elaborate, you can not safely care for her, period end of story.
Great big warm hug!