I do not know how much longer Seattle will be quarantined but she is also sneezing NO cover, she coughs NO cover, at me. I am high risk diabetic.
I 've put up with everything, her throwing things, violent verbal abuse, constant complaining blaming EVERYONE, but now putting my health at risk I just cannot continue to let her do this to me. She gets violent when I gently set kleenex next to her
I can't say anything because she's ALWAYS right and it's "HER PLACE". She doesn't "take orders from ANYBODY!"
Please help me w suggestions and a game plan.
Thank u
Jessica
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Since you're in her home, try to ignore her complaining by changing the subject or leaving the room she's in.
If you can be in separate areas more, do that to give yourself space from each other, especially when she gets abusive like that. Take a walk out on the patio? or somewhere in her home. Make some You time, even if it's sit in your room and read, sleep, snack, an indulgence, whatever that will help you relax.
She may be irritable, not feel well either. Try to get her to eat and nap more, so you don't have to hear her complaining.
Does she need to be tested, x-rayed for coronavirus, especially at her age so she doesn't wind up in the hospital? You may need to check with her dr. or yours or an urgent care or county health dept.
She can't live alone at 93, and you're at burn out; you've got to get some help for her (and you). Maybe her dr. would refer some in home health care. If her dr. will prescribe it, insurance likely pays it or some of it. Otherwise, hopefully, she can afford to add some help so you can get a break.
Start the ball rolling in that direction by talking to her dr. and her about making changes if you intend to continue to live there with and care for her. Otherwise, you need to start shopping for assisted living at some level that works for her and that she can afford.
Sorry you're going through her abuse.
Can your mother afford helpers to give you a break, even if for a few hour or are friends willing to help? If there is not money available, I suggest call to the social worker at your local senior center to see if your mother qualifies for any entitlement programs to provide some in home helpers or your state senior services department.
I hope you are able to find some help to give you a break.
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