Can independent living facility stop a caregiver who is family from helping parents during lockdown due to Covid 19?

yes, COVID has screwed us all up. My dad is in a nursing home as of 2 days ago. I can’t bring him home to do hospice- no workers in/out and quarantine rules. He got stuck in the hospital a full extra week because we couldn’t find a nursing home to go to and the health Dept made it impossible to bring him home. We got to see him twice in the ICU because he was about to die, and again at the ambulance transporting to Nh.
He had 4 tests! Neg Pos Neg Neg. had to have 2 negative in a row to qualify and only because the VA stepped in did that happen, he was a veteran.
I am heartsick to leave him in a strange place with strangers and he’s confused. 😥😥😥 we can do window visits- that’s all.

Yes. That is what is happening here in Mass. My mom moved to IL in December. They are in lockdown. Told to stay in their own units, or call office. Prior to Covid, I was there about twice a week, for errands, rides, etc. Now no visitors allowed at all. Homemakers are on hold, as far as I understand. Prepared meals are delivered daily, with three days worth on a Friday. Tenants there can have deliveries, but only though the office. No personal contact. I think they are really strict, but now, in hindsite, it is commendable. Even routine medical care has been postponed. My mom usually has monthly eye injections for macular degeneration, which I drive her to. She was told to postpone this.
So far this has worked out ok. I call her on phone every few days to check in. It’s been five weeks. But I wonder how much longer people can go on this way. Major needs are being met, but it’s not the best quality of life. Then again, we are all making sacrifices during this unprecedented time of Covid-19.
Luvumore, if you really want to see your mom, please call the facility, about exactly what it is you do for her. I asked my mom about people who have home health aids. She thinks they are still going in to help with personal care. But it is limited as much as possible, for the protection of all who live there.

Luv, you daughter. are a caregiver to mom or is she independent? Is this just senior apartments or maybe a phased facility with a number of different levels of care?

Independent living is different than an AL, it has no help. You are suppose to independent. Able to do ADLs. If she was in a reg apt, they could not keep her out.

Yes, they can. Many states the governor has ordered senior living facilities closed to ALL visitors. Purpose? To keep our loved ones safe. anyone can bring in the virus from outside, even you. They need to protect all of their residents as best as they can.

Going through something similar to that myself in AL. I am my dad's guardian and conservator. He is 93. He needs a lot of attention. We used to be able to have private caregivers come in 3 days a week but can't right now. I used to go help him every Saturday. I have not been able to see him in 1-1/2 months and his phone reception is bad in his room. I communicate through the caregivers at the AL or I drop off things he needs in bags at the front door (they won't even let us to the front desk anymore) and they take to him. He had recent (unneeded) hospitalization for one night and now he is totally quarantined to his room for 2 weeks. They had agreed to start letting his private caregivers back in for assistance during this time but it was reported to the state and the state said no -- that any care (other than keeping him company) that the private caregivers could give can also be done by his facility. The facility tried to argue the fact that the private caregivers also do bathing (the personal caregivers seem to be the only ones that can get him to bathe) and hygiene care but the state still said no. I really have no idea what is going on there.