Mom (85), with some dementia, (mini stroke 2015) insists her clothes are wet after I toilet her and change her brief. Any suggestions?

Imho, her mind thinks that she feels wetness when in fact, she MAY be feeling a cool sensation. Even after you've "solved" this "problem," her mind may still go back to it, e.g. thinking that she is wet. If that is the case, redirect.

You’ve gotten good responses already. My mom went through a spell where she felt that too. I was more fortunate though in that when I would check it and assure her there was no urine, I could suggest to her that she was feeling perspiration (“I think you’re sweating a little mom.”), and that satisfied her. This got us through that “phase.”

Maybe feeling cool is being confused with being wet. Dry a little warm air from a hair dryer and see if that helps.

If her skin is the least bit damp or cool after changing she is really feeling the sensation of being wet.

I would try adding a barrier cream or a bum powder and see if that doesn't change the feeling of being wet.

Does she continue to insist that she is soaked after everything has had time to dry out and come up to temp?

Is she able to participate at all in the changing? I know that often it’s so much easier and less time consuming to just do things for them but I have found that when I let my mom take the lead and do as much as she can on her own, wait for her to ask or accept help I’ve offered (yes each time...) it not only helps her mentally to be more independent it also helps the function, in this case changing the undergarment, being done to sink in. She remembers it better when she does it, I think we all do. The other thing that occurs to me here, though I’m not sure how it helps, is that the bulk of the underwear may be giving her the feeling of it being full and the fresh cleaning of being wet. Even if she has been using I continue underwear for a couple years with dementia she may not remember the feeling well enough for it to feel normal if that makes any sense. Perhaps a different brand or a smaller tighter fitting pair?

People with dementia suffer from scores of different obsessions and delusions. It’s just one of the behaviors that is so difficult for us caregivers to handle. When she begins carrying on about being wet, try to distract her. “Let’s go have some lunch!”:or “Let’s go for a walk!” It may help and it may not. Hopefully, this obsession will pass before long.