Who else is having a difficult time on Mother’s Day?

Mother’s Day, as well as Father’s Day for that matter, have always been difficult for me, since I had two such miserable parents. My mother is 89 and in a SNF now, I see her occasionally since she is rather harmless now. She was always a narcissistic miserable person, knowing what I know now I suspect mental illness contributed to her behavior as well. My father was an alcoholic and abandoned us when I was about 10, didn’t hear from him for decades and recently learned that he’d died about 5 years ago.

I've tried to be a good mother to my 3 daughters and not carry on history. I know I haven’t done everything right. I did the best I could, with no idea how a normal household should function or what normal parenting relationships looked like.

I would love to hear from others who grieve the loss of a “normal” childhood and upbringing.