My Mother, 92, who suffers from advanced dementia, was on death's bed two days ago. Doctor said that if she didn't start eating or taking fluids, she wouldn't last long. As she lay there, motionless with her mouth gaping, I set wheels in motion for her burial. This afternoon, I made a trip downtown to get some baby food - hoping I could get her to eat some. Well, guess who was up and walking around when I got back? I am flabbergasted! Has anyone else experienced this? I even wrote her obit yesterday. What a roller-coaster!
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Sending you a big hug and a prayer for peace as you endure this difficult process.
You are an amazing caregiver and a blessing to your loved ones.
I pray that whatever happens that you are okay.
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When she wasn’t, my husband, whom she adored, finally got her to the hospital where testing revealed that the stroke had indeed been horrific, it also that she had, as one amazed tech informed us, the body of a 50 year old. She was 85.
She was hospitalized for 2 nights, at which time she informed her neurologist that they weren’t feeding her right, and demanded to go home. He said he’d agree if I stayed with her until she could be seen by her “Regular doctor”. She didn’t have one.
I made an appointment for her for the following Wednesday, and after being checked and told all was well, she threw me out, and lived by herself for 5 more years, then broke her hip in an at-home fall. Subsequently she entered a residential center, living there for 5 more wonderful years, cared for by some wonderful loving people, many that remember her until today.
The God who cares for us offers us wonderful gifts. Another? Her baby sister, who is 92, just recovered from 3 weeks of Covid19.
My Mother was given 2 months to live after being diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer - that was in 1992.
God does indeed give wonderful gifts - and it's comforting to know He's in control, isn't it! How awesome to hear that your aunt has recovered!
I'll definitely add you to my prayer list dlpandjet. ((((HUGS))))
My daughter has seen a patient at deaths door and the next day be eating a big breakfast only to pass a few days later. My GFs father couldn't even open his eyes to say Hi to me. Next day he was up and around ready to be discharged the next day. He passed in his sleep that night.
She's 89, lives alone (with a cargiver 24/7-underpaid BTW ) has some dementia but not officially diagnosed, Some other pysch issues, and has congestive heart failure. But she is determined to live a normal life again! And I can't do a thing for her.
Several times, my LO who has severe dementia, was in the ER and the doctors told me she was very sick and end was near. They suggested Hospice immediately. She did qualify for hospice and has been on it for 18 months! So, I can't offer any explanation.