My 86 year old mother has lived with me in my home for nearly 11 years now--no retirement whatsoever. For the most part, she is able to take care of herself. However, I have 3 brothers who have been anything but supportive morally and financially. Don't even come over to visit. That's another story altogether. Being a single, public educator, I am not flush with money, and my mom's living with me these past 11 years has been a financial burden; although, I would never tell her that. My question is: When my mother passes on (I hate to think about this), I have a feeling, knowing 2 of those 3 brothers, they will come for her stuff. Not that I really want any of those things, but what might be the legalities of that?
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What happens to your mother's stuff should be determined by her Will. You do no state in your profile that Mum has dementia, so there should not be any reason for her not to have a Will.
What sort of stuff are you talking about? Anything of value? Do you want it, or do you just not want your brothers to have it?
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If your mom is not receiving any income you should contact your local area on aging and get some information on what assistance is available to her.
Personally I think that you should get whatever you want of hers and let them fight over the rest.
By law they can not come into your home and remove anything. If they show up, you don't even have to open the door. If they get ugly, call 911 and let the law explain that they have no rights to enter your home and remove items.
You don't have to be there doormat when your mom passes.
My opinion, my house. They just can't walk in. If stuff was accumulated while she was living there and you paid for it, your stuff.
I would say Mom has no Will because she doesn't have any assets. If she does, you should have been using them for her care. Have her write up a paper, designating who she wants to get what. If there is a Will then this would be a Codicil. Have is signed and notarized. This should help with any problems later. She could stipulate that as the one who has cared for her, you receive all her possessions .