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MarksBubba Asked June 2020

What to do when my husband with dementia thinks I'm his sister or niece?

My husband is 63 years old and was recently diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s.

golden23 Jun 2020
I am so sorry you both are facing this so young. Play along and change the subject. His reality is not yours any more due to the brain changes made by the disease.

It is best to educate yourself (books, videos, websites etc.) so you know what to expect and have some tools to deal with the changes.

Please come back here for support Build in time for yourself during the day. You need to look after you too. ((((((hugs)))))))

JoAnn29 Jun 2020
So sorry, so young to be on this journey.

You will find that the reasoning ability is gone. Never argue with them. Sometimes agreeing is the best. Filter will eventually go as does processing what is said to him. There will be "stories" that you will say he is lying. He isn't, his mind can no longer differentiate between reality, dreams and what he sees on TV.

You will lose the person your husband was. It is so hard to watch this happen. There is a good video on you tube. Go to you tube and put "Alzheimer video" in search. There is one with a yellow brain. Its a cartoon type thing. It will show you the progression of ALZ so you will understand better.

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gladimhere Jun 2020
You let it slide. You do not try to explain or reason with him. Any attempt will only frustrate you both, it will cause increased agitation.

You cannot explain or reason with dementia.
MarksBubba Jun 2020
Thank you gladimhere! This is all so new to me, and you're right, he will NOT accept my explanation or reasoning as to who I am. When my husband is in this state of mind I have to be extremely modest and respect that he doesn't recognize me. He won't even sleep in the same bed with me. As hurtful as this is, I have to really appreciate his reasoning and why I love him so.

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