Hitting is a sign of aggression/violence. He could seriously hurt you. There is medication that may help. Maybe time to place him into a facility. You may want to consult with an Elder lawyer very well versed in Medicaid. Medicaid allows you, as a Community Spouse, to retain the home, car and income to pay your bills. Also, any other assets you have could be split. Then you spend down DHs portion and apply for Medicaid when his portion is almost depleted. You can spend down by placing him in LTC private pay and then again, apply for Medicaid before the money runs out.
These desease is so unpredictable. Sometimes getting them placed early is better than later.
Get him to the doctor if he hasn't been in awhile. Find out why.
Your introduction sounds like this is a new behavior. On that note, make a doctor appointment. If anything, maybe doc can get him back on right track. I know the more he drinks sugar, the more the body needs it. The SUGAR BLUES, can make the mind a bit crazy, and it might make him frustrated.
Angie: ARE THESE NEW BEHAVIORS? HITTING YOU AND CRAVING COKE?
I only ask, because my relative, out of frustration due to Early ALZ disease, would seem to get into rages. He also had an unquenchable thirst for soda. He could down 2 glasses of coke in a minute and want more. My neighbor was the nicest gentleman. He got ALZ, and his personality changed. He got mean. He was never like that before. If he hasn't been checked for ALZ or had a brain scan, I suggest you get him to the doctor. IF THIS IS ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR, he needs to see a doctor. If he has gone from a nice man who didn't crave coke or sugar, to a frustrated angry man who likes to hit, and likes his coca cola, way too much, then there is a problem. Get him to a doctor.
Angie, Will he eat small meals several times a day vs. 3x/day? Not full meals, just nutritional. Maybe a Nutritionist could help you? I'd ask his Dr. if this is a side effect from medication, and for a referral to a Nutritionist to help.
You might try switching 'some' of his Cokes to a sparkling water without caffeine or sugar (not sugar free as there's an after taste). Let him taste them before buying too many because not all taste good. 'Fizzy' club soda with lemon or lime is a nice substitute. Not all club sodas are 'fizzy' like Cokes enough to substitute. Try Schweppes, which also has a no salt choice, and don't have sugar.
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Hitting is a sign of aggression/violence. He could seriously hurt you. There is medication that may help. Maybe time to place him into a facility.
You may want to consult with an Elder lawyer very well versed in Medicaid. Medicaid allows you, as a Community Spouse, to retain the home, car and income to pay your bills. Also, any other assets you have could be split. Then you spend down DHs portion and apply for Medicaid when his portion is almost depleted. You can spend down by placing him in LTC private pay and then again, apply for Medicaid before the money runs out.
These desease is so unpredictable. Sometimes getting them placed early is better than later.
Your introduction sounds like this is a new behavior. On that note, make a doctor appointment. If anything, maybe doc can get him back on right track. I know the more he drinks sugar, the more the body needs it. The SUGAR BLUES, can make the mind a bit crazy, and it might make him frustrated.
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I only ask, because my relative, out of frustration due to Early ALZ disease, would seem to get into rages. He also had an unquenchable thirst for soda. He could down 2 glasses of coke in a minute and want more.
My neighbor was the nicest gentleman. He got ALZ, and his personality changed. He got mean. He was never like that before.
If he hasn't been checked for ALZ or had a brain scan, I suggest you get him to the doctor. IF THIS IS ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR, he needs to see a doctor. If he has gone from a nice man who didn't crave coke or sugar, to a frustrated angry man who likes to hit, and likes his coca cola, way too much, then there is a problem. Get him to a doctor.
You might try switching 'some' of his Cokes to a sparkling water without caffeine or sugar (not sugar free as there's an after taste). Let him taste them before buying too many because not all taste good. 'Fizzy' club soda with lemon or lime is a nice substitute. Not all club sodas are 'fizzy' like Cokes enough to substitute. Try Schweppes, which also has a no salt choice, and don't have sugar.