Garlic, from your profile you are talking about your wife. Keep telling her she needs to follow precautions. My mother is 96 and just started going to the grocery store again. She wears a mask. She lives alone. She couldn’t sit home any longer so she goes out with a mask. You can’t stop your wife from going out. If you can’t live the way she wants then don’t be there when she gets home. I don’t blame you for being mad at her. This is serious. Does she have dementia? Perhaps she needs to be in a facility. If she doesn’t have dementia, tell her you are going somewhere else to live by yourself to stay safe.
Mother had her 90th birthday last week. We sibs planned a very low key OUTDOOR gathering and asked that people wear masks. I wore one, my BIL who is a Dr. wore one and nobody else. Mother had one draped around her neck! She was hugging all and sundry. Neighbors, friends and family. I didn't hug her, I barely got within 3' of her, as I am immunosuppressed and won't take the chance.
Her attitude is "well, if I get it, I get it. I don't care".
That's probably why the family with the twin babies didn't show, nor the family with small kids, nor the niece who is undergoing fertility treatments.
Mom can't think outside the box of her own life.
If your mom has any level of dementia, she probably won't understand. My mother has been in serious lockdown for months. She goes to the grocery store with YB and SITS IN THE CAR. It's crazy town. That is her one and only outing in a week.
Does mom live with you? Or on her own? Living alone, she's probably just going to do whatever she wants. I was in a big box store last week and masked--but saw MANY elderly people puddling around with no masks and actually overheard one old guy telling his buddy that the gov't was just trying to scare us into compliance and by darn HE wasn't going to kowtow to anyone. Sadly, that kind of attitude is going to keep this thing going for a lot longer than necessary.
There was a case of a family gathering here in BC, where our numbers are quite low. It was a group of 30 family members, inside and outside of a house. 15 of them have come down with Covid-19. That's right 1/2 of them.
You can't reason with dementia, you can't expect her to remember or follow logic. If you give us some specific examples we may be able to offer advice on coping strategies.
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Mother had her 90th birthday last week. We sibs planned a very low key OUTDOOR gathering and asked that people wear masks. I wore one, my BIL who is a Dr. wore one and nobody else. Mother had one draped around her neck! She was hugging all and sundry. Neighbors, friends and family. I didn't hug her, I barely got within 3' of her, as I am immunosuppressed and won't take the chance.
Her attitude is "well, if I get it, I get it. I don't care".
That's probably why the family with the twin babies didn't show, nor the family with small kids, nor the niece who is undergoing fertility treatments.
Mom can't think outside the box of her own life.
If your mom has any level of dementia, she probably won't understand. My mother has been in serious lockdown for months. She goes to the grocery store with YB and SITS IN THE CAR. It's crazy town. That is her one and only outing in a week.
Does mom live with you? Or on her own? Living alone, she's probably just going to do whatever she wants. I was in a big box store last week and masked--but saw MANY elderly people puddling around with no masks and actually overheard one old guy telling his buddy that the gov't was just trying to scare us into compliance and by darn HE wasn't going to kowtow to anyone.
Sadly, that kind of attitude is going to keep this thing going for a lot longer than necessary.
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