Isthisreallyreal I do not mind "speaking" to them at all. A guardian don't necessary have the resident's best interest at heart.
Just because they are appointed "guardian" don't mean a thing. The reason I say this is, my BIL had a guardian before that did not make any type of decisions for him at all. Their name was just signed on some type of paperwork as "guardian."
Speak to them for signatures haileybug. You said that they were only having husband sign admission paperwork and then they wouldn't talk to him or share information.
I still think that your husband should not sign anything without reading it to be sure that he is not accepting financial responsibility. I personally would not sign anything, I would tell them to speak to the guardian to get their signature on all required paperwork.
If there is a DPOA in effect, then that person signs as their agent. If there is no DPOA but a guardian, then the guardian signs as their agent. If neither of these apply, then the next of kin signs as the agent. Sign it as the agent for the person not the responsible party.
If you have DPOA, HEALTH & FINANCIAL, you can sign on their behalf. I was told to sign this way: John Doe, by Jane Doe, Agent. This way you aren't seen as the responsible party.
If a person has a guardian and the person himself is forced to sign then the facility just created an illegal contract; make certain your papers for guardianship are turned in. Whatever happens, whatever you sign ALSO sign what who you are signing for, so that you are not help personally responsible for bills.
Isthisrealyreal The same person. I forgot I had an account with this forum and signed up again. Also, when I go to sign in, both of my sign in emails are similia, therefore, being too fast on my part, I sign in to the new account sometimes. Sorry for the confusion.
Is your LO on Medicaid? Maybe he's being shuffled about because they don't have any more Medicaid beds. Facilities usually have very few Medicaid beds because they don't get reimbursed enough for them by the state. You can't put someone into a facility when the facility doesn't know who is going to pay for the care. If not on Medicaid, does your LO have the funds personally to pay for the MC (even for a few months)? A guardian manages all the affairs of their charge, including financial. I'm not sure if that makes them personally liable. Lutheran Brotherhood was my step-FIL's guardian, not an individual. You can call social services for your LO's county and ask that question, they may know, or call an elder law attorney.
I am POA for my mother who has dementia. I signed her admission paperwork which stated whomever signed was financially responsible. I didn't know what else to do.
Jamesj Thank you for your response. I know what you mean by you didn't know what else to do.
My husband and I feel the same way about signing the admissions papers for my BIL. We are not his guardian or his POA, however, my husband is always asked to sign these papers which is so strange to us.
These facilities will let us be a part of everything until things go down. Then they deny us all access to his info.
Having the same problem. Mom in rehab now and being discharged in to Respite Care on Monday. They sent me admission paperwork to sign. I'm not her guardian and don't have POA. They are saying my mom has dementia, so wouldn't that mean she can't sign the papers either? Don't know what to do.
It has been my experience as guardian / conservator for my dad that they always have me sign. They will not allow him to as he would have no idea what he is signing. I always sign my name and then 'guardian' or 'conservator' at the end, depending on the situation.
If a person has a Guardian that means that they in all probability can not sign a contract. The fact that you are a Guardian does not necessarily mean you are financially responsible personally for the cost. I was Guardian for my Husband and any costs that I incurred came out of his account and I was paid back. (I kept receipts and at the end of the month I would total them up and write a check from his account to mine, this was all reviewed and had to be approved by the court about every 6 or 12 months) When the house we lived in was sold the money went into HIS account (my name was not on the deed) In this case I would sign and indicate "As Guardian for....." But any expense has to be approved by the court so I would suggest that this be brought up and prior approval be given.
I would tell them no. The guardian should be signing these forms. If you read carefully I guarantee that there is a financial responsibility statement in those admission forms.
You have to watch these places they are dirty dealing dogs.
Isthisrealyreal Thank you for responding. You said a mouthful about them being dirty. You are absolutely right. I really feel like that are playing dirty but before I gave them the benefit of doubt, I came here to see what you all thought.
The last Memory Care Unit my husband's brother was in, The Administrator had my husband to sign the Admissions paperwork. However, the Administrator of that facility "dumped him at the hospital" and refused to accept his back.
The thing is, Whenever the Administrator "dumped" him, she refused to give my husband any paperwork, claiming he was not the guardian. My husband and I recently were able to get our hands on the "discharge notice". She covered up what she was doing by putting on the discharge notice that she was discharging BIL to another Memory Care Unit when in fact that is not what she did.
I feel like they are trying to keep things covered up by having my husband sign all the paperwork although he is not the guardian. Thank you responding. At least
Yes. It matters. The guardian or POA signs as usually a resident is unable to understand what they are signing. But it is important legally how you sign. I signed for my brother but signed, say Dee Deer, by Alva Deer under POA (or POA). That means that Alva is signing for Dee as he cannot, but she is not assuming the responsiblity of PAYING. Dee is paying, even if Alva is the one who makes out the checks, or OKs the automatic withdrawal. So if the person can understand, they can sign. If they cannot, then their POA or their Guardian signs their name using POA to sign. It is important you do not personally take on liability.
AlvaDeer Thank you for your response. I thought the guardian of an incompetent resident is the one who signs the admissions paperwork. However, that is not what happens. For some unusual reason, whenever my BIL transfers from place to place, the Administrators and Social Workers ask my husband to sign instead of his guardian. I thought that was odd. Thank you again.
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Just because they are appointed "guardian" don't mean a thing. The reason I say this is, my BIL had a guardian before that did not make any type of decisions for him at all. Their name was just signed on some type of paperwork as "guardian."
I still think that your husband should not sign anything without reading it to be sure that he is not accepting financial responsibility. I personally would not sign anything, I would tell them to speak to the guardian to get their signature on all required paperwork.
That's my question. Why are these Administrators having my husband to sign the paperwork when they are aware he is not the Guardian or POA?
Now you know to tell them to speak with the guardian.
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My husband and I feel the same way about signing the admissions papers for my BIL. We are not his guardian or his POA, however, my husband is always asked to sign these papers which is so strange to us.
These facilities will let us be a part of everything until things go down. Then they deny us all access to his info.
The fact that you are a Guardian does not necessarily mean you are financially responsible personally for the cost.
I was Guardian for my Husband and any costs that I incurred came out of his account and I was paid back. (I kept receipts and at the end of the month I would total them up and write a check from his account to mine, this was all reviewed and had to be approved by the court about every 6 or 12 months) When the house we lived in was sold the money went into HIS account (my name was not on the deed)
In this case I would sign and indicate "As Guardian for....." But any expense has to be approved by the court so I would suggest that this be brought up and prior approval be given.
You have to watch these places they are dirty dealing dogs.
The last Memory Care Unit my husband's brother was in, The Administrator had my husband to sign the Admissions paperwork. However, the Administrator of that facility "dumped him at the hospital" and refused to accept his back.
The thing is, Whenever the Administrator "dumped" him, she refused to give my husband any paperwork, claiming he was not the guardian. My husband and I recently were able to get our hands on the "discharge notice". She covered up what she was doing by putting on the discharge notice that she was discharging BIL to another Memory Care Unit when in fact that is not what she did.
I feel like they are trying to keep things covered up by having my husband sign all the paperwork although he is not the guardian. Thank you responding. At least