How can I have my 80 yr old mother declared Incompetent? I know she has signs of Dementia but no Doctor has diagnosed her yet?

She passed the Neurologist exam 3 yrs ago in the office... but now she’s much worse & at night she’s crazy & mean every nite & I’m disabled w MS & Scoliosis. I can’t take the ABUSE anymore! She also has a lady who helps her who bullies me..& I had to go to Hotel twice ..( in last 2 yrs) & this helper threatened to call Police on me 2 yrs ago & she did ! cause I left a note for her take her shoes off? No reason to call police? & then last week again she threatened to call Police on me cause I was upset she wouldn’t let me speak to my mother? I defended myself to her & she chased me Into the kitchen kept saying she’s gonna call Police on me??? I was so upset.. I couldn’t breathe, took MS ATTACK felt like Heart Attack terrible chest pains & that day later I flee to a Hotel for 2 days ( spent $200) & I already pay my mom $800 a month for a tiny room & now I go to give my Mother her nite meds & she calls my Brother up In Philly to get her OUT of here??? She has a woman helper who bullies me & knows too much about my mom’s wealth & my brother hates me for no reason ..cause he never wanted to help my mom in her old age like I’ve had for 20 + yrs since she moved to Florida

I'm way too disabled for all this toxic abuse!

this house is in TRUST for me..& if I leave .. she can’t live alone , she'll sell it & I’ll lose it.. but I’m at point now .. I don’t care anymore ...& I just wanna leave forever..

My mother also Bullies me ! She calls me a loser, a liar, claims I never want to help her when I can’t??? I have Multiple Sclerosis, Severe Scoliosis ( my Right side has now collapsed, pain is EXCRUTIATING at times, & now I need Neck Surgery.,,???

1) What is best & fastest way to have her declared incompetent?
2) How can I file Abuse Charges against the helper? & possibly against my Mother?
3) How can I seek / receive Financial Assistance to Relocate? I have enough Income to Rent a nice Condo.. but .. need $$ to leave , clear out Storage unit, hire Movers..& have 1st & last deposits, I’m in Florida & want to move to S Carolina,
She is constantly threatening to throw me out & then minute later she begs me not to go???

I Mentally & Physically cannot TAKE the ABUSE Anymore!!!

im a good daughter & have fought for my mother all my life... Got her free real estate taxes, moved in w her 2 yrs ago, every hospital stay was there for her & demanding fr Doctors to take her out of pain.. as she suffers fr Chronic pain as do I.. been her caregiver for 15 yrs..& now that I’m disabled she hired part time help.. BUT ALL the time I LOST due to her Difficulties, Her ABUSE, Her Nastiness...I can never get back! I’m very ANGRY.. cause I was disabled since 2008 but at least I could walk , get dressed up to go to dinner & dance occasionally but NOW I progressed in last yr so badly, last night none of my clothes looked good on me, can no longer wear my wedges or heels,& I can barely WALK..& I’m all alone no husband only an ex boyfriend (who is now my Close friend )... so angry cause my Scoliosis Is so bad.. that I’m severely crooked , my Spine is deformed, & my right side has Collapsed..& the curve is worsening every day that last week I could bare breathe & I felt my rib cage in my stomach & it hurt so bad..& when my back is Out & Spasming I cannot Walk at all! I’m only 55 & look like 50 but this Horrific Stress is making me look 80???? Please Help me... please
God Bless

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