I see from your profile that your father has full-time care in his home. Have you asked his caregiver(s) whether his behaviour and mood have changed recently?
It may be that some social filter in his brain has broken and he's no longer aware of appropriate boundaries; in which case all you can do is say "I'll talk to you later, Dad" and hang up. But it could also be that he's picked up an infection and it's treatable, in which case medical attention is called for and might solve the problem.
If he rings you to initiate this kind of conversation, then again you hang up, only preface it with "wrong person to tell this to, Dad. You don't talk about sex to your daughter. I'm hanging up now." If he keeps ringing, block his number temporarily (i.e. for a few hours). You know that he's safe, his care team can call you if there's an emergency, and you really do not have to put up with this.
Thanks, I was upset first time and cried when we hung up. So he didn't say anything like that for a couple of weeks. Then it happened again, and just say - not going talk about that so I will talk to you tomorrow. Didn't think could be a medical issue.
Tell him you are his daughter and it is highly inappropriate to talk to you like that, and if he continues to speak to you in that manner immediately hang up the phone.
First time I was upset, but then I thought it's dementia talking,so that's I do. Dad I am not talking about that so I am hanging up. Then in a couple of days I call him and nothing is mentioned.
As Tothill said, tell him not to talk to you about that kind of thing and change the subject.
My mom has an imaginary husband and likes to try to tell me about their sex life. "Too much information, Ma," I have to tell her, and she cools it. I don't think she really remembers that I'm her daughter now, so I could be her best friend for all she knows.
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It may be that some social filter in his brain has broken and he's no longer aware of appropriate boundaries; in which case all you can do is say "I'll talk to you later, Dad" and hang up. But it could also be that he's picked up an infection and it's treatable, in which case medical attention is called for and might solve the problem.
If he rings you to initiate this kind of conversation, then again you hang up, only preface it with "wrong person to tell this to, Dad. You don't talk about sex to your daughter. I'm hanging up now." If he keeps ringing, block his number temporarily (i.e. for a few hours). You know that he's safe, his care team can call you if there's an emergency, and you really do not have to put up with this.
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My mom has an imaginary husband and likes to try to tell me about their sex life. "Too much information, Ma," I have to tell her, and she cools it. I don't think she really remembers that I'm her daughter now, so I could be her best friend for all she knows.