Hi, the latest about this I could find here on AC is from 2012. So I was wondering if anyone knew of any sites besides this one for caregivers to go to vent and just get "I-know-what-you-mean;-me-too" type support? Thanks for any help.
Hi, finally figured out how to respond to all the helpful replies I got (thanks); I'm not on Facebook but will check for support groups on google. We had very few support groups around here anyway even before the pandemic, so online would be perfect.
Who I'm going to start to have to be caring for is kind of odd. I think it's possible my husband *may* be getting Alz. I hope not; it may be just that he hates (but at the same time is in denial about) being old. So I'm dealing with a irritable, negative outlook from him about everything. Which is frustrating because we're living where he wants to live, not where I do; he gets to play golf as often as he wants; if he doesn't feel like following pandemic rules or guidelines, he doesn't. So I don't understand why he's so grumpy & argumentative other than the hating being old thing (or hopefully not Alz.). He has complete physicals frequently and is on an anti-depressant (after trying several) which has helped but still...
So if not Alz, looks like it may just be that old saying, "Hell hath no fury like an alpha male when he gets old." (And I guess none of us like being old.)
But whatever the cause, I need to learn to do as Alz caregivers do & ignore the grumpiness and argumentativeness and just agree with everything. But oh, I'm finding it so hard to be patient. How Alz caregivers do it, I have no idea.
I'm not sure what you are looking for that hasn't been updated since 2012, half the threads on AgingCare have been vents and some of them have continued for years (although most of the oldest have morphed into something else as participant's circumstances evolved)... I did a fair amount of venting myself during my caregiving journey.
There are many awesome caregiver support groups on Facebook. When you go into Facebook, just search for "caregiver" and there are many. Hope this helps!
You don't mention who you're caring for or why. In any case, there are many different support groups for carers. Cancer, MS, dementia, etc. I think attending a live support group is more helpful and even more therapeutic than an online group. There you'll be with other carers with the same issues and able to vent to your hearts content. Because of the current pandemic, however, live groups aren't meeting. If you "google" support groups, you can look thru the listing and choose one that fits your needs.
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Who I'm going to start to have to be caring for is kind of odd. I think it's possible my husband *may* be getting Alz. I hope not; it may be just that he hates (but at the same time is in denial about) being old. So I'm dealing with a irritable, negative outlook from him about everything. Which is frustrating because we're living where he wants to live, not where I do; he gets to play golf as often as he wants; if he doesn't feel like following pandemic rules or guidelines, he doesn't. So I don't understand why he's so grumpy & argumentative other than the hating being old thing (or hopefully not Alz.). He has complete physicals frequently and is on an anti-depressant (after trying several) which has helped but still...
So if not Alz, looks like it may just be that old saying, "Hell hath no fury like an alpha male when he gets old." (And I guess none of us like being old.)
But whatever the cause, I need to learn to do as Alz caregivers do & ignore the grumpiness and argumentativeness and just agree with everything. But oh, I'm finding it so hard to be patient. How Alz caregivers do it, I have no idea.
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