Are retirement homes/assisted living facilities fully "open" again?

Monica, I'm glad you and your DH have come to understand that you are powerless in this situation and need to get on with your lives.

So...turns out my MIL'S community is fairly open now. Families can come and visit in residents' apartments and residents can come and go. My MIL called last night and her first trip out resulted in a fall and injuries (bad enough for the ambulance but not bad enough to go to the hospital). Another couple took her out to dinner and would not let her bring her walker because it would not fit in their car. She fell at the restaurant....on the cement sidewalk, I believe. Cracked her head open, hands all bruised and some other minor injuries. She called my husband last night to tell him (it had happened a day prior). He can only say "Oh, wow, glad you are okay" because she refuses to discuss moving closer to us, going to a higher level of care, etc. She still drives because as of this past spring none of her doctors would take away her license. But she seems to be going downhill fast since her hysterectomy this summer (she is 92 years old). But...nothing we can do and I won't stress about it anymore. We have put our entire retirement life on hold for her. No more!

Monica, your husband doesn't sound like he is going to try and move his mother into your home if she does get evicted. Which I doubt considering she is self pay and they can isolate her when she breaks the rules.

Let it go and stop stressing yourself out over this. It won't change one thing.

I doubt that they're entirely open like pre COVID. Many do allow visitors on an appointment basis and for a limited time. I don't believe the residents can come and go as they please, that would expose them unnessarily to the virus. Call the facility.

Your hubby should call the office of the place before he agrees to go and inquire if they’re “fully open”