Who do I contact for my husband who falls because of very weak legs? He does not want to be placed in assisted living. I need help for him.

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You are so right. Muscle wasting.

Have you been told by a medical professional that his legs are weak?

I went through the same thing with a family member that is in a nursing facility. Every time he would get up to walk, he would have poor balance and fall. (he has dementia as well)

They thought it was due to him being weak, however, it was later determined to be something else.

At your husband's age, and given he has diabetes it is likely that his weak legs have a combination of causes that won't be fixed in rehab, especially with his dementia preventing real participation in exercises and such ongoing. There is also with age such a lot of imbalance that happens. If 5 weeks in rehab didn't help I doubt rehab is the answer. You don't tell us your own age, but I am assuming you are at least in your 60s. Your husband is also weakened enough and advanced enough that sleep is his preferred activity (not unusual). I think that your husband would do better now in placement and that it is almost crucial for you. I understand that he "doesn't want to go there", because quite honestly I think Forum hasn't seen a case where an elder did want to. It is the sad fact that not everything can be fixed or prevented. Some things must be dealt with. I think that given his advanced condition any placement in Assisted Living will be very costly. I can recommend that you try places more "homey" and smaller, with smaller more familiar staff dealing with fewer residents, such as board and care. There are many companies now that will take you to visit. It will be necessary to see a lawyer to work on separation of assets to pay for your husband's care that doesn't rob you of what you need to live on. It is all complicated and will take time, but I think you entered stage 1 here you recognize that your ability to handle all this is now less. All of this said, it will do no harm to see the doctor and speak to him about the possibility of rehab.