Sunday I went to my moms to get her bills. While I was there, her crazed lunatic son (my brother) came running towards me like he was going to hurt me. He has hit me on 2 different occasions and I vowed it would NEVER happen again. I called police but they couldn’t make him leave because legally he’s an OCCUPANT since he’s been mooching off her for 11 yrs. trying to get him removed with Protective Order is ridiculous. I took her to my house and will sell her house. No way is she going back. I’m so exhausted and angry about the whole situation. My mom can’t bathe herself, or fix her meals, she can’t find her way to bathroom or her bedroom. She wakes up in middle of the night screaming or breaking things. She constantly opens n closes doors. I’m running on 2-4 hrs sleep/night. I need a break.
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Please don't sacrifice your own health and wellbeing over this.
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Call a social worker if you need help in sorting everything out.
In your intro to us you tell us that the brother lives with Mom but does nothing, but you tell us here that Mom cannot bathe or fix her meals, or even find her way to the bathroom. Mom getting worse? Is this sudden? Could she have a UTI?
Has brother been bathing her, getting her meals, dealing with her breaking things and screaming in the night? You have Mom with you now and are on 2-4 hours of sleep, and that must have been the case for brother in the home with her also?
Has the relationship between you and brother been once OK, but now everyone is completely at burned out? You say you are POA for mother and wish to sell her home. I wonder how you will be able to do that with your brother in the home? Will he allow it to be shown for sale?
Try to get together a list of things you must do now. If Mom's worsening symptoms are new, then see about a UTI check on her early this week. I would plan to see a Lawyer because it does look like you will have to serve papers on your brother preparatory to selling this home.
I know it is expensive, but as POA this can come out of your Mom's funds while she is with you, as it is about selling her home. You can also have a lawyer look over your POA paperwork to be sure it is secured and good enough to do a sale on her home. If not you might need guardianship.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Your Mom may require placement. Only you can be the judge of that. A call to EMT will get her transported to ER by Ambulance to be checked out, which she may need eventually and if that is the case, and you can find a good Social Worker, that would help.
You must be just in torment and I hope there is somewhere there SOME support for you, even if only friends.